I feel like I give help easily but I don’t feel ok asking. How do you become ok with asking for help? I have no idea what conversations that include this even sound like. In my mind I come across as begging and losing connection with the person or people I ask. How can I think about this differently?

Edit: a little more context, although this applies generally I think. I recently got surgery. I have enough help at home to get by, but it would be nice I suppose if a friend wanted to help out in some way too while I recover. I’m not exactly sure what kind of help that would entail, maybe cleaning or cooking or even just visiting. But I struggle with asking for help in even “normal” circumstances, like moving, or a major project, or even just emotional support.

  • @WhoRoger
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    110 months ago

    If it’s difficult, you can always a) minimise the stuff/amount you’re asking for (asking someone to visit isn’t even asking for help), b) come up with something to trade, i.e. what you can do for them in return or later.

    Not saying it’s the best approach, but it’s a way to break through the hardest mental barrier.