I’m gay.

My dad is not pleased with this fact. Completely homophobic.

Half the time his homophobia doesn’t even make sense.

>Fishing show on TV in the living room
>Watching it with mom and dad
>Mom: "I don’t have the patience for that kind of stuff
>Me: “It doesn’t feel like too long when you’re out there”
>Dad: “Time flies when you’re a removed.”
>Go to my room

It’s getting ridiculous. He goes out of his way to respond to everything I do by calling me a removed.

  • southsamurai
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    -161 year ago

    See, this is actually one of the rare times when violence is the answer.

    One good kick to the nuts, and a “you ever fuck with me again, you’ll sing soprano”, and it’s going to back the guy down. It doesn’t have to even be super aggro, just casually roll up and do it, then say it calmly, and walk away.

      • @UnculturedSwine
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        121 year ago

        And you’ve also given your homophobic dad more reason to be homophobic

        • @[email protected]
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          -11 year ago

          Oppressed minorities are not required to be on their very best behavior in order to avoid being oppressed further. 🙄

          The guy could be a serial killer and the dad would still be wrong for saying that.

          • @UnculturedSwine
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            21 year ago

            Escalating to violence is never acceptable. I really don’t get what you’re trying to say.

            • [email protected]OP
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              41 year ago

              Violence is definitely acceptable in some situations, just not this one. Gay and traumatized is better than gay, traumatized, homeless, and possibly injured. Morality doesn’t dictate consequences.

    • @eran_morad
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      31 year ago

      Yes, assaulting people always works wonders.

      • southsamurai
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        41 year ago

        No, but in very narrow circumstances, controlled violence to back down continued abuse does work wonders.

        People will only bully and abuse people they think they can get away with it towards. I’m those cases, controlled violence is an effective tool because it draws a firm boundary and expresses the consequences for crossing it.

        Someone behaving like the “dad” in the story posted is only doing it because they think they can get away with it. That kind of person is very likely to back the fuck off when the son backs them the fuck off. Remember, they’re already using the threat of violence in the posted scenario. The only realistic response to a threat of violence, when outside assistance via legal recourse isn’t available, is shutting them the fuck down hard and fast.