• @RBWells
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    41 year ago

    No. There is always a better household. That is ridiculous. Say we are good parents providing a safe home with only cheap food, sometimes having to skip meals to feed the kids. There’s a richer family who could do better. But if they get the kids, there’s a better off family with a psychologist mom who can do a better job. Oh, wait - there’s a household that can get them both cars when they are 16 and send them to a private school that gives them better opportunities.

    Where does it end? And who decides?

    There is always going to be a family who can financially provide more than the parents of any child. And often, having kids gets people motivated to make more money, go back to school, improve their lives. It would take all my fingers and some of my toes to count the families I know who had kids when they were poor and ended up getting better lives. Their kids see that struggle and learn it’s possible to get ahead. Their kids are great people.