edit: I am a man and the only man in this scenario
This happened some time ago. I was driving and stopped on a gas station. probably for coffee and had to go pee. I saw a long queue of around fifteen to twenty exclusively 30-something girls, definitely bit older than me. They probably were a sports team, since there was a hired couch bus waiting outside and they were mostly wearing sweats. There were separate stalls for men and women (one each), so I went for the men’s room. It turned out locked, so I stood just outside it. One of the girls in the queue said that the back of the queue is “back there”. I replied “sure, but I’m going to the men’s room”, understandably assuming they were queueing for the ladies room. To which she said “yeah but there’s one queue for both”. I am familiar with the concept of shared queues, but mostly from supermarkets or post office, where you would queue for several checkouts and just go to the first one that is free. Never encountered shared queues for gender-separated toilets, so I said “but the toilets are separate, I’m going to the men’s room and you can queue for the ladies room” and simply went in without any more protest from them when the men’s room emptied (and it was another girl in there).
Were I the asshole?
No the women are using a bathroom not designated for them. Garuntee you if the situation was reversed and 10 men were in line and these girls came up and found a guy using the womens restroom they would flip out.
Except the situation will usually not be reversed. You’re acting like men and women are equals on this. They are not.
I understand that. Where I live men are expected to tolerate the intrusion because they don’t get uti’s or have periods.
So the double standard is only a problem when it doesn’t benefit them. Mkay. Also men absolutely get UTIs no idea why you think they can’t.
Yikers. The “us vs them” feel to this comment really clears up why people on the internet hate what I have to say about “Gas Station Bathroom Etiquette When a Bus Load of Specifically Women Need to Pee in Rural United States.”
Yikes. The emotional manipulation and deflection in lieu of critical thinking, addressing counter points, and arguing in good faith is real with this comment. Super-duper extra yikes.
There is nothing us vs them here. It’s equality, and equal treatment at all times. What you’re proposing is a double standard, which is not everyone being treated equal.