No, you can be close with someone but not tolerate their presence. I’ve had this manifest as high maintenance friends that I knew a lot about and spent a lot of time with, but were ultimately draining to be around and asked too much of me to be sustainable.
I mean, my circumstances do make me keep my friends close and my enemies closer. Are my enemies secretly my friends?
No, you can be close with someone but not tolerate their presence. I’ve had this manifest as high maintenance friends that I knew a lot about and spent a lot of time with, but were ultimately draining to be around and asked too much of me to be sustainable.