Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.

  • Redhotkurt
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    131 year ago

    It’ll stop once it stops being a problem. FTA:

    He had recently read about a high school creative writing assignment in which boys and girls were asked to imagine a day from the perspective of the opposite sex. While girls wrote detailed essays showing they had already spent significant time thinking about the subject, many boys simply refused to do the exercise or did so resentfully.

    I mean, we’re not just talking about the ability to communicate (which is important), but the basic ability to empathize. If men (in general) are unwilling to even consider the female point of view, is it any wonder why women have a difficult time dating? This isn’t happening in a vacuum; there are real reasons why this is happening.

    • snooggums
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      1 year ago

      Boys refusing to do an exercise about imagining a day as the other gender represents a social problem, not a men problem. High school boys who refuse to imagine themselves as someone else were taught to be resistant to that idea, and not only by men but society as a whole.

        • @[email protected]
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          101 year ago

          Maybe we stop with top down one size fits all solutions to human interaction? The article is a good example of part of the problem, as it seems to exonerate one group while putting all the onus for change on the other. Mainly by it having essentially a single position from all them people that the author uses as sources and references and the narrow scope that they actually show.

        • dumplesOP
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          51 year ago

          Agreed. No one’s to blame but should work on fixing it

    • @zarathustra0
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      161 year ago

      Think of the structural issues which have caused this to be the case. Blaming men for not achieving an externally defined target isn’t going to help anyone.

      Hate the game, not the player.

    • @Surp
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      111 year ago

      You couldn’t be more in your own echo chamber. If other men are telling you woman also act the same way as some men and also have issues and you refuse to see another position or point of view you are the problem.

    • @AtmaJnana
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      110 months ago

      You take one cherry-picked anecdote and then generalize that to the entire population. You are the problem.