I’m bisexual, and trans. I’ve been on dates with men, and women, presenting as both a man and a woman. I usually just pay for myself, or awkwardly fail to turn them down when the other person offers to pay.

  • Lvxferre
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    41 year ago

    I’m cis, man, straight. Usually I pay for the first date, unless she says that she wants to split it. Further dates depend, really - sometimes I’m short on cash, sometimes she is, but usually we’d split.

    awkwardly fail to turn them down when the other person offers to pay.

    Frame it differently: you aren’t awkwardly failing to turn them down, you’re gracefully accepting their generosity. If the other person is offering themself to pay, you shouldn’t feel guilty for letting them to do so.

    • @elephantium
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      31 year ago

      That’s a good way to think about it. If someone is doing something nice for you, let them!