• @_finger_
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    471 year ago

    We used to call these people patronizing but it got gendered for some reason

    • @asdfasdfasdf
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      1 year ago

      It’s funny because “patron” in “patronize” comes from “pater” which means father.

      • @heili
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        121 year ago

        And “condescending” is also available to describe this behavior.

    • @PopularUsername
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      101 year ago

      Yeah in my books, “Mansplaining” has never had proper meaning. It was just a way of blaming men for a particular behaviour, which is generally neutral to begin with.

      • @_finger_
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        61 year ago

        The people who came up with it just didn’t have a lot of real world experience dealing with people. Most likely college kids writing from their own, narrow minded viewpoint (with a dash of narcissism)

        • @PopularUsername
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          111 months ago

          Is an interesting topic of discussion, unfortunately, they always seem to attach these things to a specific gender or race and it makes the whole thing sound childish. It’s like the concept of micro-aggressions, I like the idea of investigating the subtleties of human behaviour which can have covert but large effects, but they immediately attach it to race and racism.

    • @Zyrxil
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      41 year ago

      Because it’s a specific subset of patronizing, where it wouldn’t have happened if the target were not a woman.

      • Lightor
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        11 months ago

        What about the other way around, what’s that called? Like I’ve had women “mansplain” cooking to me because I am a guy.

        • @Zyrxil
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          511 months ago

          Womansplaining I guess? It’s not a popular phrase or even one I’ve ever heard anyone else use, but it somewhat fits as she explained it because she felt like you don’t understand cooking as a guy. But it’s missing the other context where mansplaining only became a popular term because lots of women could identify with their own personal experiences of being condescendingly explained to just because they’re a woman.