I am 24, autistic, straight edge, and a data analyst. I’m the youngest person in my company, the closest person to me in age is 45. I haven’t used a regular social media site since I was 14. My only interaction with modern discourse is my girlfriend’s 18 year old sister. When she talks she might as well be speaking another language. My hobbies are unix, classic literature, VHS collecting, and synthesizers. My girlfriend calls me her 80 year old boyfriend.
I often see the same people over and over again on lemmy since its a small community. I even saw the same nicks on reddit often (like shittymorph). But yes it isn’t intended to be ego centric like other sites.
I think anonymous social media, while still social media, occupies a very different category from non-anonymous (identified?) social media. And the default interpretation of “social media” is the latter.
Alot of people do use their names on Twitter, and they really encourage you to follow, buy, and sell.
I don’t recall people calling forums social media, and Lemme (and Reddit) are more like forums, with you following the subject. Not each other. Very much like BBS back in the day except with links.
The tougher requirement of people using their name would leave very few social medias. Basically just LinkedIn and Facebook, with Twitter and others that have usernames but also named people being in the grey area.
Even though there are anonymous people on twitter, it still asks you to follow, and the posts are generally self promotion, not discussion of topics. That is the big difference.
Lemmy is media, without the social part. Unless you really want to. I have not even looked at the users names I respond to, because that does not matter. On twitter, it actually does, real name or not.
I’m on kbin. But I’d consider this and other reddit inspired websites to be closer to a forum than a social media. Sure, you can use it like a regular social media site, but it’s more tilted towards a forum method.
Am I out of the loop? I didn’t think being a straight edge was something to be proud of. I feel like it includes a good amount of intolerance and judgement. It’s this not the case?
Edit: man, I was expressing my impression from what I’ve read on the Internet and asking for more information. I wasn’t expecting to get down voted for trying to understand better
I don’t know if people are proud of it. Most people that I have known that are straight edge just don’t want to do drugs or alcohol. I haven’t known them to be judgemental of others who do, to each their own.
According to a punk guy I used to work with the straight edge movement originally had a nonjudgmental camp and an extremely judgemental camp. Can’t too much speak to that claim myself as I’ve never been on the punk scene but he was in general a trustworthy dude which leads me to believe there’s at least something to it even if it’s not quite right. But again I’m not in the punk scene so maybe I’m regurgitating bullshit
Maybe the non judgemental ones doesn’t post on social media and the judgies are the ones that originally gave me the impression and down voted me :shrug:
I just don’t care to put substances in my body that are effectively toxic. If you think, being high at all times is the best way to live life, then more power to you.
Really, it’s annoying that people think we’re judgemental. I’m guessing, lots of folks judge themselves for it, but as long as everyone else does the drugs, they aren’t confronted with that.
As soon as I dare to exist, not putting toxic substances into my body, they’ll feel judged, because I’m adhering to their moral standard of not doing drugs, effectively reminding them that it would be doable.
If I come up with some bullshit reasoning, like I’m the designated driver, rather than the truth that I just don’t want it, they’ll feel more at ease. Although, I guess, that would also be the case, if they truly thought I was actively judging them.
I have friends that don’t drink and don’t do drugs. Neither of my adult children do (18 and 20). I think it’s great. I don’t fathom why question was down voted. I think it’s awesome that you you don’t succumb to the pressures of society an live your life in a way that makes you happy. Keep kicking ass ❤️
Yeah, I’m proud that I have self control and have maintained a lifestyle that many people fail at. I’m proud to be associated with a community of people that live the same way. It’s better than being proud of how much booze you can down or how high you can get.
Yeah, this seems so oddly judgmental and weird lol. Like I don’t go on roller-coasters, so fuck everyone that does I’m better than them because I’m a roller-coaster virgin
I am 24, autistic, straight edge, and a data analyst. I’m the youngest person in my company, the closest person to me in age is 45. I haven’t used a regular social media site since I was 14. My only interaction with modern discourse is my girlfriend’s 18 year old sister. When she talks she might as well be speaking another language. My hobbies are unix, classic literature, VHS collecting, and synthesizers. My girlfriend calls me her 80 year old boyfriend.
Isn’t Lemmy a social media?
The anonymous factor differentiates things.
Can’t any social media be anonymous?
Sure but it’s not intended to be.
Also a big part of it is imo that you never interact with the same people on sites like reddit or Lemmy, you don’t follow anyone or anything.
I often see the same people over and over again on lemmy since its a small community. I even saw the same nicks on reddit often (like shittymorph). But yes it isn’t intended to be ego centric like other sites.
Good old asocial network.
So Twitter isn’t a social media?
The “social” aspect is up to debate.
Usernames though. Anonymous would be something like 4chan
I guess they mean Facebook, Xitter, etc. You know, the big ones.
I think anonymous social media, while still social media, occupies a very different category from non-anonymous (identified?) social media. And the default interpretation of “social media” is the latter.
That’d make Twitter not social media for people not using their actual names.
Alot of people do use their names on Twitter, and they really encourage you to follow, buy, and sell.
I don’t recall people calling forums social media, and Lemme (and Reddit) are more like forums, with you following the subject. Not each other. Very much like BBS back in the day except with links.
The tougher requirement of people using their name would leave very few social medias. Basically just LinkedIn and Facebook, with Twitter and others that have usernames but also named people being in the grey area.
Even though there are anonymous people on twitter, it still asks you to follow, and the posts are generally self promotion, not discussion of topics. That is the big difference.
Lemmy is media, without the social part. Unless you really want to. I have not even looked at the users names I respond to, because that does not matter. On twitter, it actually does, real name or not.
Any media can be anonymous.
It’s a link aggregator
It’s also “social news”, which is a kind of social media.
Only if you don’t participate in the comments sections or even just look at them.
More or less, but they specified “regular social media” which Lemmy is not
How dare you?
I’m on kbin. But I’d consider this and other reddit inspired websites to be closer to a forum than a social media. Sure, you can use it like a regular social media site, but it’s more tilted towards a forum method.
Not a regular one
If you’re 80 i hope your gf isn’t in her 20s
You’re who I pictured. Thanks for the validation.
Got any of your music out there we could listen to?
My current project is called Obfuscation. It’s atmospheric synth music inspired by aliens.
https://obfuscation.bandcamp.com/
My previous project was Das Kommando. It was a harsh black noise project about violent suicide.
https://daskommando.bandcamp.com/
Am I out of the loop? I didn’t think being a straight edge was something to be proud of. I feel like it includes a good amount of intolerance and judgement. It’s this not the case?
Edit: man, I was expressing my impression from what I’ve read on the Internet and asking for more information. I wasn’t expecting to get down voted for trying to understand better
I don’t know if people are proud of it. Most people that I have known that are straight edge just don’t want to do drugs or alcohol. I haven’t known them to be judgemental of others who do, to each their own.
According to a punk guy I used to work with the straight edge movement originally had a nonjudgmental camp and an extremely judgemental camp. Can’t too much speak to that claim myself as I’ve never been on the punk scene but he was in general a trustworthy dude which leads me to believe there’s at least something to it even if it’s not quite right. But again I’m not in the punk scene so maybe I’m regurgitating bullshit
Maybe the non judgemental ones doesn’t post on social media and the judgies are the ones that originally gave me the impression and down voted me :shrug:
The vocal minority can really skew perception
The og judgementals could just be old too, I’m in my late 30s and these guys are a decade older than me
I just don’t care to put substances in my body that are effectively toxic. If you think, being high at all times is the best way to live life, then more power to you.
Really, it’s annoying that people think we’re judgemental. I’m guessing, lots of folks judge themselves for it, but as long as everyone else does the drugs, they aren’t confronted with that.
As soon as I dare to exist, not putting toxic substances into my body, they’ll feel judged, because I’m adhering to their moral standard of not doing drugs, effectively reminding them that it would be doable.
If I come up with some bullshit reasoning, like I’m the designated driver, rather than the truth that I just don’t want it, they’ll feel more at ease. Although, I guess, that would also be the case, if they truly thought I was actively judging them.
I have friends that don’t drink and don’t do drugs. Neither of my adult children do (18 and 20). I think it’s great. I don’t fathom why question was down voted. I think it’s awesome that you you don’t succumb to the pressures of society an live your life in a way that makes you happy. Keep kicking ass ❤️
Your question might have been downvoted, because people (including me) read it the wrong way.
I thought, you were saying people shouldn’t be proud of being straight edge.
And your reasoning:
…, I thought, was supposed to say that you think people, who are straight edge, are themselves very intolerant and judgemental.
Words can just be ambiguous, I guess.
Thank you for pointing that out. I appreciate the additional point of view
Yeah, I’m proud that I have self control and have maintained a lifestyle that many people fail at. I’m proud to be associated with a community of people that live the same way. It’s better than being proud of how much booze you can down or how high you can get.
I guess it was people like you that gave me the impression I got from reading posts on the Internet
Yeah, this seems so oddly judgmental and weird lol. Like I don’t go on roller-coasters, so fuck everyone that does I’m better than them because I’m a roller-coaster virgin
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