We’re autistic, and one of the characteristics of being autistic is that we feel things deeply. On the positive side, when we are happy, we feel immense joy compared to others. On the negative side, we feel painful emotions more strongly than others as well. Because of this, many of us have been invalidated, insulted, or pushed away when all we were wanting was to share what we were going through and get support. Maybe even a really tight hug and someone telling us that it makes sense that we feel that way.

While we can’t give hugs, we can help each other by sharing our pain and having others help us through it. So here is that post. What’s bothering you? Why? Tell us.

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  • BOMBSOPMEnglish
    3•11 months ago

    I’ve been increasingly annoyed at the double standards of rules. The thing where the rules clearly say one thing, yet everyone looks the other way unless people draw explicit negative attention to themselves. In many cases I like that they aren’t being as strict with rules as they say they are (because the rules as written kinda suck). But for the love of god, please just say what the actual rules are

    Are you referring to this community? If so, can you elaborate?

    • SavvyWolfEnglish
      3•11 months ago

      Nah, nothing like that. Some examples:

      • Every country seems to have a number of archaic old laws that everyone seems to be breaking, but many don’t actually get prosecuted for it (and in many cases, doing so would be politically unwise).
      • A big platform that I depend on as part of my professional career (Github) has rules against having multiple accounts per person. But so many people do it that I have to assume they don’t enforce it unless you being excessive.
      • Discord and Final Fantasy 14 both have strict rules against third party client modifications, but they seem very commonplace. Again, perhaps unenforced?
      • People flagrantly disregard the rules of some platforms and services, and yet they seem to be mostly tolerated until they suddenly aren’t. In a few cases this is the only source of income for some people (luckily not me), and getting shut down would put them at a huge risk.
      • Depending on your moral compass, some level of violating IP law is morally excusable. It is of course illegal, but barely enforced. Probably.

      It’s… Legitimately terrifying the level of control governments and megacorps have over people, and feels somewhat arbitrary what they let you do or don’t do. And to be clear - I think most of these rules are dumb, but I just want rules to be changed rather than left unenforced.

      • BOMBSOPMEnglish
        3•11 months ago

        I think most of these rules are dumb, but I just want rules to be changed rather than left unenforced.

        I think that some laws are left unenforced unless a person in power wants to punish you. Then, they enforce it but only you.