Ok, so I have some code to crawl a posting of a community and compare two servers for comments missing. It looks bad today. Both of these servers are version 0.18.0 and have been upgraded for several days.
missing 0 unequal 0 11 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 11 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 35 unequal 1 48 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 14 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 4 unequal 0 9 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 5 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 6 unequal 0 9 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 3 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 1 unequal 0 1 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 0 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 6 unequal 0 12 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 6 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 3 unequal 0 8 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 5 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 3 unequal 0 6 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 4 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 22 unequal 0 42 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 20 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 5 unequal 0 15 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 10 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 8 unequal 2 17 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 9 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 3 unequal 0 3 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 0 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 0 unequal 0 10 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 10 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 11 unequal 0 24 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 13 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 1 unequal 0 2 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 1 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 13 unequal 0 37 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 24 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 3 unequal 0 7 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 4 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 0 unequal 0 10 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 10 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 60 unequal 2 186 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 126 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 10 unequal 2 51 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 41 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 16 unequal 0 51 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 36 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 31 unequal 3 128 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 97 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 0 unequal 0 4 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 4 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 2 unequal 0 5 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 3 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 15 unequal 1 67 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 52 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 4 unequal 0 53 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 49 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 0 unequal 0 5 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 5 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 0 unequal 0 0 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 0 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 1 unequal 0 19 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 18 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 0 unequal 0 2 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 2 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 0 unequal 0 22 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 22 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 0 unequal 0 16 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 18 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 0 unequal 0 7 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 7 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 3 unequal 0 27 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 24 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 2 unequal 0 32 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 30 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 3 unequal 0 21 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 18 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 3 unequal 1 16 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 13 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 3 unequal 1 47 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 44 on https://sh.itjust.works/
missing 1 unequal 0 24 on https://lemmy.ml/ vs. 23 on https://sh.itjust.works/
The number of comments is based on loading comments, not the counts at the top of the posting.
You may already be aware of it since it was mentioned in your issue on GitHub, but for the benefit of others reading here: at least one possible cause of this (rejection of activitypub messages due to too tight signature expiration deadlines) should be fixed in the next rc: https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy/pull/3379