We’re closing this thread. Everything that could be said has been said. Thank you
Original Post:
Today, we want to inform everyone that we have decided to defederate from https://exploding-heads.com/. We understand that defederating should always be a last resort, and individuals can certainly block communities. However, blocking alone does not prevent potential harm to vulnerable communities.
After carefully reviewing the instance, reported posts, and multiple comments from the community, we have concluded that exploding-heads is not adhering to the Lemmy or Citizen Code of Conduct. Therefore, we cannot, in good faith, continue to federate with an instance that consistently promotes hate, racism, and bullying.
Examples:
https://lemmy.world/post/577526 - Community Moderator Harassment
https://exploding-heads.com/post/92194 - Systemadmin Post
https://exploding-heads.com/post/90780 - Systemadmin Post
https://exploding-heads.com/post/91488 - Systemadmin Post
https://exploding-heads.com/post/93725 - Community Moderator Post
Again, deciding to defederate from an instance is not taken lightly. In the future, we will continue to review instances on a case-by-case bases.
As for our community, please refrain from posting or commenting with hateful words as well. Arguing back and calling people names is not the solution. The best course of action is to report the posts or comments violating our server rules.
Lemmy Code of Conduct
https://join-lemmy.org/docs/code_of_conduct.html
Citizen Code of Conduct https://github.com/stumpsyn/policies/blob/master/citizen_code_of_conduct.md
“We are committed to providing a friendly, safe, and welcoming environment for all, regardless of level of experience, gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, personal appearance, body size, race, ethnicity, age, religion, nationality, or other similar characteristic.”
So comments calling Michelle Obama an ape, or a meme making fun of burning LGBTQ+ people, aren’t hate speech, they’re just “edgy”? Cool. “Remember when God burned a whole bunch of gays? Good times!” is about as textbook “hate speech” as you can get, but you keep working on how to excuse it as “humor”.
Regardless, the fact that you’re subbed to exactly 2 of the hundreds of communities on that server does not make your personal experience a valid representation or defense of admin/moderator policies and actions from that server. If the community takes the stance of “fuck them” and advocates that “admin’s keep their edgy content on alt accounts and in communities that pussy instances can just block”, then they’re absolutely going to be a continuing source of problems. If you really want to see their content so badly, you can create a login on another server that hasn’t defederated them (including their own server). That’s how this whole things works.
I actually agree a bit that the original “cry baby” response you got seemed a bit excessive, but the more you talk, the more it seems to have perfectly identified you.
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That certainly is an interesting take on the memes. I appreciate your sharing your view. I definitely saw those examples with completely different context and meaning. This goes to show how much is really in the eye of the beholder.
To illustrate, I didn’t think of the Michelle Obama one as referring to her being an “ape”, I thought of the meme as referencing the conspiracy theory of Michelle Obama being born male?
And the “1st pride celebration” meme seems to me to be referencing some supremely bigoted supreme being that would supposedly reign fire down on sinners or something, not a literal meme “making fun of burning LGBTQ+ people”. If it was a meme about the latter, I’d agree, that’s hate speech, and I don’t think even exploding-heads allows that, looking at their rules just now?
So yes, I view them as stupid edgy memes, but not hate speech. The examples I’ve seen all seem to show stupid jokes that I wouldn’t go looking for or spread personally. And the only reason that I’m seeing them now, despite being subscribed to communities over at exploding-heads, is that they are used as examples that defederation occurred.
I still stand by my thinking that defederation was a harsh reaction, but lemmy.world can do as lemmy.world pleases. That’s why I’m registered at kbin.social, and not lemmy.world. That’s the beauty of the fediverse. If it ends up that kbin defederates from exploding-heads also, I’ll look at the reasons stated then as objectively as possible and evaluate. I might come to a different thoughts then, if I see examples that makes sense. Lemmy.world’s examples doesn’t make sense to me as reasons to defederate though, if they were used as reasons to defederate also on kbin.social.
I’m just trying to state my view point of things as sucinctly yet clearly as possible as to avoid misunderstandings. I don’t have a chicken in this fight, so to speak, other than just wanting what I stated first thing in this thread, and that is “being able to see as much of the fediverse from one instance as possible” and hoping that kbin “not wield the defederation hammer as lightly” as lemmy.world did. If explaining my thought process as detailed as possible makes me a “cry baby”, fine. I would think it just makes me autistic, but hey, I’ve been called worse.
The comment calling Michelle Obama an ape is the top rated comment under the meme. A mod made the comment.
As for the LGBTQ+ meme, the key part you’re missing is that it identifies it as the first Pride celebration. That makes it explicitly clear that it is making fun of burning LGBTQ+ people. They’re literally celebrating the idea. God punishing “sinners” is only a “celebration” if you take joy in seeing that group of people suffer… because, you know… you hate them.
These things can only really be seen as just “stupid edgy memes” if you deliberately ignore context, like how the people in the community are reacting to the memes, or even how they’re describing them. And ignoring context is one of the go-to strategies for hate-speech apologists. I’m not saying that that’s your intent, but you’re citing the same arguments and using the same tactics as the “reasonable” hate speech advocates consistently make to try to legitimize the idea that hate speech is a valid form of expression of opinion that should be treated as protected speech.
And for the record, when I said that comment seems to have perfectly identified, I was referring to the text, rather than the meme. You seem increasingly invested in the idea that people should have easy access to hate speech. The crybaby part is much less relevant.
You’re referring to the reply by @Fisuxcel?
Surely that comment is directed toward the other user in that thread who commented that the meme itself wasn’t funny. It’s colorful speech, but if that’s hate speech, I’m unsure what definition of hate speech one must have to regard it as such. I’d be genuinely interested to know. Would calling someone a “big fat cat” similarly be classified as hate speech?
See here I also really appreciate you laying out your thought process. I hadn’t yet thought how someone could perceive it precisely like that. As if the celebration is not the pride event, but some abstract on-lookers celebrating the destruction of the first pride celebration. It seems more like a symbolic or abstract interpretation of what the meme literally portrays. To me it seems out of context. I certainly don’t see it as that when I see that meme. I see at as someone making a meme where they seem to imply the amount of chaos that reigns down is proportional to the amount of celebrants at the 1st pride celebration. More sin equals more destruction, chuckles had, basically, something like that. Supreme being being supreme. Edgy meme, sure, but not that funny. I’ve seen far worse about horrific events that are actually funny. For a long time it was virtually impossible to joke about 9/11 as an example, thankfully that phase is well in passing by now. At least that was my impression, but I may be proven too optimistic in regards to that.
So in other words you are prejudiced in interpreting my motivations as being that of others which I may look like at surface level to you? My stance is that in my country there are laws for dealing with hate speech and I believe they address them fine, and I’m looking for no more or no less from the platforms on which I communicate. Others might disagree, and that’s fine to me, and I’ll happily exchange thoughts. I feel we did that more in the days of yore on the internet, but it’s less common today. As for purposefully or deliberately ignoring the context of a meme; if our interpretation of the context or meaning of the memes themselves differ so much, how can it even be deliberately ignored if we can’t share a common definition of what’s even going on? It’s not my intention to come across as ignoring context that others may experience. Everyone has a valid interpretation of reality in reference to their own experience, but I’m also not required in any way to submit to others’ interpretations either. That’s the beauty of free speech in my opinion.
Right, I think I understand. So you saw it as me doubling down on the side of hate speech, pretty much. Here’s where our opinion differ again. I can’t identify the examples as hate speech. Hate speech is far more egregious than the context I’m seeing, unless you are somehow seeing a far bigger context, which I’m failing to see. I’d rather engage with individuals directly than on some higher ideological level.
I might seem increasingly invested, but the fact is I’m already vested since long ago in the idea of open debate, the value of differing and diverse opinions, ability to voice your them freely, and the absolutely paramount need for modern systems in place that facilitate this. This is why I’m giving kbin a shot. Not because I just want another Reddit. The whole federation thing seems like am ample chance to make free speech cost less and mean more than on a shitty, corporately controlled, centralized place like Reddit.
No, “big fat cat” would not be considered hate speech. Comparing black people to apes is a well established racist trope. Again, context. That seems an oddly random insult to make to a commenter, since it is explicitly visual. It would be like me getting mad at you and calling you a “fat lardass”. I have no idea if you’re overweight; it has an excellent chance of being a comment more likely to amuse you with its inaccuracy than to hurt you. Its much more typical to express insults online based on perceived behavior rather than random unfounded guesses about a person’s traits that aren’t a direct part of the discussion. Whereas there have been a steady stream of racists referring to Michelle as an “ape” ever since the election. Occam’s Razor applies here, IMHO.
The problem with your assessment regarding the LGBT meme is that you continue to view these from a lens that assumes that hate speech is a nebulous and subjective area. In reality, it isn’t. It is any form of expression through which speakers intend to vilify, humiliate, or incite hatred against a group or a class of persons on the basis of race, religion, skin color sexual identity, gender identity, ethnicity, disability, or national origin. There isn’t some arbitrary level of egregiousness that has to be met. “Haha you r****d” is still hate speech. It doesn’t have to be “I think we should kill every member of [insert minority]” to qualify.
If you assume the meme is about God punishing sinners, then the meme vilifies the LGBTQ community as sinners. It also strongly implies that anyone in the LGBTQ community deserves death because they’re sinners.
Interpreting it as some innocent commentary about how “the amount of chaos [i e. fiery execution by God] is proportional to the number of celebrants” is such a mental contortion that I really struggle to believe you’re making that argument in good faith, no matter how you couch the rest of your position.
And no, I’m not making assumptions based on “surface level” similarities. I’m trying to take your position seriously, which is the only reason I’ve continued to engage with you the way that I have. But the things that I pointed out are valid reasons to suspect that you may not be sincere in your position, either because you think that by presenting defense of hate speech in a fashion that doesn’t portray you as malicious may move the bar on what should not be censored, or because you don’t fully recognize the scope of your own internalized prejudices.