My in-laws are visiting for a week at the end of next month and they like to visit until late in the evening. However, I typically go to bed at 7 PM because I have to get up at 4 AM to train for my sport before work. I’ll have just finished a competition and will be beginning training for another one when they’re here.

What’s the best way to set boundaries with them without coming across as an asshole? My wife will probably want to stay out later while they’re here, so I’ll have to figure out a way to compromise.

To make it more interesting, what are some things your in-laws do that annoy you when they visit?

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    1 year ago

    Man I have the in-laws from hell so I know what you’re dealing with. Same problem, when they visit it’s like non-stop activities and I don’t want to spend the whole time with them. They’re like supercharged tourists.

    Fortunately my wife feels the same way and doesn’t force me to participate in every activity. But if I didn’t participate in some then like you say, I’d look like an asshole. My wife does what she can to give me space so it’s tolerable. I do dread when they come to visit though. It’s the polar opposite with my own relatives, we can lounge around and talk for hours in a relaxed way, it’s very easy going.

    I rely on my wife to provide some insulation, maybe that’s something you could ask of your wife. If my wife didn’t do that for me I don’t know if I could tolerate the in-laws coming to camp out for several days at a time.