You gotta understand just how few pictures men have of themselves. Most of us aren’t randomly taking selfies; a lot of us don’t even have pictures of us with our friends.
I don’t know about you but when i take pictures with my friends it’s because we’re doing stupid shit, dares, disguises, and generally more than a few drinks.
Don’t know if it’s an age thing but the last time my friends and I took a picture together, was over a decade ago. It just… doesn’t happen. I guess we’re just taking in the moments or none of us really take pictures.
But you’re on a dating site, why not make some fresh? Genuine question, but that’s usually just what I do. Like I’ll get dressed up in my favorite clothes and take a nice picture to show off a bit. Seems like that sort of approach would only help?
Like I can’t think of any reason to add a fish pic unless they’re just genuinely proud of it, in which case, fish fearing ladies probably shouldn’t apply anyways…
Idk, now I think it’s both good to have the fish pic AND create new pics, imo… Helps screen out the people you don’t actually want and helps showcase your more preened side, if one exists (and if not, that’s also good data for a potential mate to have)
I just don’t understand how someone can get on a dating app that’s in a phone and not think to take a picture… Like there’s a camera in the device that you’re using to access the app with.
But fair is fair, it happens, that must be at least part of it, if not all of it. Ty for the explain!
Nah that’s one and done mentality. Just gotta take a shitload and random different angles and lightings and one is bound to be good. Same logic as fishing, just keep trying till you catch a good one lol
But I guess at this point I’m only pushing the point as a PSA for anyone who could use the advice. You’re right though, a bad selfie is much worse than a good fish pic.
I see the point, and this kind of makes sense if the guy is older and not comfortable with digital cameras, but it’s really easy to either take a selfie or ask a friend to take a picture suitable for distribution. I feel if one wants to go online to search for a partner, it’s worth planning and executing a few pictures.
The point is the effort. Dating takes effort. If you can’t even make the effort to ensure you get a nice pic or two of yourself, how much effort are you going to put into a relationship?
There are very easy ways to take pics of yourself without it being a selfie nowadays. Phone tripods with Bluetooth remotes exsist for $25 off Amazon.
“We just don’t have pics of ourselves.” …so take some, instead I of just rolling over and saying “oh well.”
You gotta understand just how few pictures men have of themselves. Most of us aren’t randomly taking selfies; a lot of us don’t even have pictures of us with our friends.
Not just that it’s a picture of a proud moment for me. I’m damn proud I caught that fish… you know how often I’m out there not catching shit???
I don’t know about you but when i take pictures with my friends it’s because we’re doing stupid shit, dares, disguises, and generally more than a few drinks.
Don’t know if it’s an age thing but the last time my friends and I took a picture together, was over a decade ago. It just… doesn’t happen. I guess we’re just taking in the moments or none of us really take pictures.
I agree. The last good group picture I have with me in it was at the top of Haystack Mountain in New Hampshire in 2004.
That said, I’ve always been the archivist in any group.
But you’re on a dating site, why not make some fresh? Genuine question, but that’s usually just what I do. Like I’ll get dressed up in my favorite clothes and take a nice picture to show off a bit. Seems like that sort of approach would only help?
Like I can’t think of any reason to add a fish pic unless they’re just genuinely proud of it, in which case, fish fearing ladies probably shouldn’t apply anyways…
Idk, now I think it’s both good to have the fish pic AND create new pics, imo… Helps screen out the people you don’t actually want and helps showcase your more preened side, if one exists (and if not, that’s also good data for a potential mate to have)
Most men I know usually don’t take pictures at all, so we actually don’t know how to take a good selfie, or even what it is.
I just don’t understand how someone can get on a dating app that’s in a phone and not think to take a picture… Like there’s a camera in the device that you’re using to access the app with.
But fair is fair, it happens, that must be at least part of it, if not all of it. Ty for the explain!
I mean, you can always take a shitty picture. But that’s worse than a picture of you holding a fish somehow.
Nah that’s one and done mentality. Just gotta take a shitload and random different angles and lightings and one is bound to be good. Same logic as fishing, just keep trying till you catch a good one lol
But I guess at this point I’m only pushing the point as a PSA for anyone who could use the advice. You’re right though, a bad selfie is much worse than a good fish pic.
Personally, I did go out and get some new pictures but a lot of guys can’t be bothered I suppose.
As for the fishing, it shows that you have interests outside of staying in all day playing video games lol
Your comment inspired me to look through my camera roll to find a pic of myself.
I had to go back to 2020. It was a picture of me wearing a mask that my wife made.
I see the point, and this kind of makes sense if the guy is older and not comfortable with digital cameras, but it’s really easy to either take a selfie or ask a friend to take a picture suitable for distribution. I feel if one wants to go online to search for a partner, it’s worth planning and executing a few pictures.
The point is the effort. Dating takes effort. If you can’t even make the effort to ensure you get a nice pic or two of yourself, how much effort are you going to put into a relationship?
There are very easy ways to take pics of yourself without it being a selfie nowadays. Phone tripods with Bluetooth remotes exsist for $25 off Amazon.
“We just don’t have pics of ourselves.” …so take some, instead I of just rolling over and saying “oh well.”