Here recently it seems like everything just gets under my skin so quickly and easily. It’s not that I get mad and take it out on others, it’s just the fact that I’m constantly annoyed and stressed. Something as simple as the dogs tracking some mud through the house will just ruin my mood. I know some people who would just laugh it off and clean it up. Meanwhile I’ll get pissed that I didn’t wipe their feet and be mad the entire time I’m cleaning it up. This has nothing to do with the dogs, it just an example. Any number of seemingly insignificant things can trigger me like that. Like forgetting something at the store and having to go back. I would love to be able to go, “well that sucks” and just get over it.
I know it’s not a good advice, but having something very serious happen in your life might shift your perspective. In my case, getting (through) cancer made me realize it’s not worth stressing for stupid little things and greatly deepened my stoicism.
I’m sorry you had to go through that but glad to hear it helped you on the long run. It is definitely something I try to remember.
My father-in-law, who was a very successful banker, told me before I married his daughter that he would give everything back to spend more time with his daughters when they were younger.