As an autistic adult, some of us are extremely easy to manipulate because they cant imagine people being subversive. You dont even have to have a low IQ for that.
Perhaps you aren’t naive, but rather willing to risk being burnt, in trade for a life of trust.
Is it actually the case you got blindsided, or did you consider the betrayal as a possible outcome but decided to proceed anyway, and instead of explaining to people that you were open to the risk, did you just decide it was easier to play-act as a naive person?
As an autistic adult, what I’ve found is that I don’t lack any of the guile necessary to recognize antisocial behavior.
It’s that I resist that awareness.
Not so much that it never crosses my mind, but rather that when it comes there’s another part of me rejecting it.
All I had to do in order to stop being so naive, is to simply allow the non-naive part of myself to speak up. I didn’t have to develop it.
It was like I had this security team giving me security briefings each day, and I had just been tossing them in the shredder without a glance. I didn’t have to hire a security team. I already had a really good one in place. I just had to stop ignoring what they were saying.
In fact, I learned that much of my “childish naivete” was actually just a sort of character I’d been playing while trying to fit in when I was younger.
Jesus Christ. I was hoping it was just overhyped and the reality wasn’t quite so heinous, but the title isn’t clickbait at all.
As an autistic adult, some of us are extremely easy to manipulate because they cant imagine people being subversive. You dont even have to have a low IQ for that.
Not all autistic people, but several I have known (including in my family) have definitely been way too trusting of people, unfortunately.
As I said, some. I‘m rather trusting myself and have paid dearly for it.
Perhaps you aren’t naive, but rather willing to risk being burnt, in trade for a life of trust.
Is it actually the case you got blindsided, or did you consider the betrayal as a possible outcome but decided to proceed anyway, and instead of explaining to people that you were open to the risk, did you just decide it was easier to play-act as a naive person?
As an autistic adult, what I’ve found is that I don’t lack any of the guile necessary to recognize antisocial behavior.
It’s that I resist that awareness.
Not so much that it never crosses my mind, but rather that when it comes there’s another part of me rejecting it.
All I had to do in order to stop being so naive, is to simply allow the non-naive part of myself to speak up. I didn’t have to develop it.
It was like I had this security team giving me security briefings each day, and I had just been tossing them in the shredder without a glance. I didn’t have to hire a security team. I already had a really good one in place. I just had to stop ignoring what they were saying.
In fact, I learned that much of my “childish naivete” was actually just a sort of character I’d been playing while trying to fit in when I was younger.