As an autistic adult, some of us are extremely easy to manipulate because they cant imagine people being subversive. You dont even have to have a low IQ for that.
Perhaps you aren’t naive, but rather willing to risk being burnt, in trade for a life of trust.
Is it actually the case you got blindsided, or did you consider the betrayal as a possible outcome but decided to proceed anyway, and instead of explaining to people that you were open to the risk, did you just decide it was easier to play-act as a naive person?
As an autistic adult, what I’ve found is that I don’t lack any of the guile necessary to recognize antisocial behavior.
It’s that I resist that awareness.
Not so much that it never crosses my mind, but rather that when it comes there’s another part of me rejecting it.
All I had to do in order to stop being so naive, is to simply allow the non-naive part of myself to speak up. I didn’t have to develop it.
It was like I had this security team giving me security briefings each day, and I had just been tossing them in the shredder without a glance. I didn’t have to hire a security team. I already had a really good one in place. I just had to stop ignoring what they were saying.
In fact, I learned that much of my “childish naivete” was actually just a sort of character I’d been playing while trying to fit in when I was younger.
As an autistic adult, some of us are extremely easy to manipulate because they cant imagine people being subversive. You dont even have to have a low IQ for that.
Not all autistic people, but several I have known (including in my family) have definitely been way too trusting of people, unfortunately.
As I said, some. I‘m rather trusting myself and have paid dearly for it.
Perhaps you aren’t naive, but rather willing to risk being burnt, in trade for a life of trust.
Is it actually the case you got blindsided, or did you consider the betrayal as a possible outcome but decided to proceed anyway, and instead of explaining to people that you were open to the risk, did you just decide it was easier to play-act as a naive person?
As an autistic adult, what I’ve found is that I don’t lack any of the guile necessary to recognize antisocial behavior.
It’s that I resist that awareness.
Not so much that it never crosses my mind, but rather that when it comes there’s another part of me rejecting it.
All I had to do in order to stop being so naive, is to simply allow the non-naive part of myself to speak up. I didn’t have to develop it.
It was like I had this security team giving me security briefings each day, and I had just been tossing them in the shredder without a glance. I didn’t have to hire a security team. I already had a really good one in place. I just had to stop ignoring what they were saying.
In fact, I learned that much of my “childish naivete” was actually just a sort of character I’d been playing while trying to fit in when I was younger.