I’m not entirely sure what this post is for, I guess I’m just looking for some advice, maybe a little understanding?
The last few weeks I’ve been feeling incredibly overwhelmed, overworked and generally just burnt out.
For context I work a 50 hour week in a warehouse; it’s a pretty crap job that physically really takes it out of me. My weekends? Well my partner then goes to work for 2 days; which means I’m solo-parenting the five and two year old.
The eldest is full of sass, and the youngest is still yet to sleep through the night and appears to be dropping his one and only nap; meaning he’s super grumpy all the time.
Parenting is hard work at the best of time, but right now all I seem to do is work and then solo-parent. And it’s the solo part that I’m struggling with. There’s no time to share the load with Mum (and she’d say the same thing) , there’s no time to focus on housework whilst the other parent handles the kids, there’s not even any time to sit down as a family and enjoy an evening dinner.
Work. Parent. Work. Parent. It’s absolutely exhausting and there doesn’t appear to be any light at the end of the tunnel.
Update
Just wanted to say thank you for the kind messages. I vowed to have a good day yesterday and as much as the kids tried to stop that, I did end up having a pretty good time.
Parenting is hard, so I really value having a place to come talk about those issues in a safe space. Once again, thank you.
Ive been here kinda. We only have the 1 child but my wifes job involves her bringing a lot of work home so my whole life was work and single parent a lot of the time because she had to get work done.
The only thing I can suggest is making the 5yo feel like they are contributing, asking them for their help and praising them when they do. My Daughter was only 4 but "Daddy need to cook dinner, so I need your help I cant cook dinner and pick up the toys so can you pick up the toys while I cook dinner please? If you can get the 5yo thinking they are your AMAZING LITTLE HELPER and gamify getting them to be helpful it might help.
I remember my Daughter giving up the naps, yeah thats a trying phase. Trying to get a big physical morning in so they would be more inclined to nap was one of my key strategies, especially if I knew they didnt sleep super well the night before or were up early.