Just commit, no matter the response. Adding /s is akin to explaining a joke after you tell it. If someone doesn’t understand or pick up on the sarcasm, it’s not your responsibility to spell it out for them. You add /s because you don’t want to be held accountable.
Do you now make sure to say “JK JK LOLOL” after?
I don’t care what you do. I’m just telling you what happened to me. I thought I was sarcastic and that I had some elite sense of humor that only the smartest people could get. Maybe that’s true, I don’t know. What I do know is that my “elite tier sarcasm” that no one else got ended with me sitting alone most of the time with people avoiding me.
You do what you want. You can feel free to laugh at my advice if you want, doesn’t bother me.
But, I’d invite you to really reflect on yourself about how you may come off to others if you’ve never done it. Just, think about it. For me it didn’t really sink in until I realized my friends were going out and not inviting me, and I realized that I was really, really alone. I’m very grateful my SO sat me down and told me that. It was a hard conversation, I didn’t like what it said about me, but lessening the sarcasm was a small price to pay to be a lot more approachable.
But hey I’m just a stranger on the internet.
In all seriousness, I typically refrain from sarcasm in person. I’m also glad you grew from your experience, and your SO seems thoughtful. This post is solely referring to the internet.
Thanks, appreciate it. Smart move not using it in person with people you don’t know. Online, it depends on the situation for me. Most of the time I find that the context the comments are in will pick it up. However, there are some comment chains that I add an /s just to make sure it’s clear, or if I’m changing context from a sarcastic tone to a non-sarcastic tone.
Reddit was and Lemmy is pretty good about it. If I’m ever on corpo-social-media, which, not really anymore, I never use sarcasm. Even if I said it’s sarcasm someone will still jump down thinking I’m being serious.