Hear me out. First, I know sex isn’t everything and I know that hooking up and getting laid isn’t going to solve deeper needs and insecurities that I am working on.
That said, I’m also getting out of a long and bad relationship that has left me feeling like I missed so many experiences and opportunities in what ultimately were the final years of my 20s.
I never really properly figured out dating or hooking up. Even though it’s not literally true, I feel like the only person I’ve been with is someone where we skipped straight to “serious long term relationship” which not only contributed to why we didn’t work out, but also kind of stunted my development when it comes to romance and sex.
So now I’m trying to take a step back and just kind of loosen up and have fun in a way I feel I never have before. I do want to develop real connections and long term relationships, but I also want a bit of time away from that first.
Only problem is, I have no clue how and I do feel just a bit old for it. I’m on Tinder and frankly it just feels like nobody is interested.
That really makes no sense. If you’re a 5 there are statistically way more people “in your league” than if you’re a 10.
Indeed. But there’s no guarantee that people who are fives are looking for similar people who are relative fives on a scale of appearance.
It is just really not the case that only the most attractive people have sex. The majority of sex - casual and otherwise - is had between people who are average looking.
Of course average people have sex. My point was that above-average people have a lot more sex
Half of all people are above average. I just don’t think this is the death sentence people on the Internet say it is.
I wish you the best in your search. I’m not good looking so I might be overly pessimistic in my thinking. Good luck!