I wondered why some of these men say these nonsensical and mysoginistic things despite being popular and pretty good looking. Were they not taught to respect women? Then there is the answer: they weren’t. It dawned on me that not everyone were taught the same as I was-- to not give in to insecurities and that you don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Of course, it’s recommended to improve one’s self, but if the end goal is transactional and expect reward rather than doing things because it’s the right thing, then boy you will just lead yourself to a downward spiral of disappointment and cynicism. I’ve seen this on a few people close to me trying to prove themselves to anyone who don’t necessarily care about them. I have a mate to bought an expensive but ugly pair of Gucci shoes to impress a rich girl who strings him along, rather than court someone who will accept him for who he is. We’re trying to impress people we don’t like and don’t like us, instead of building meaningful relationship with people who will accept you.

You’re being mocked for not conforming to masculine stereotype? Fuck them. If they are truly your friends, they should accept you for who you are. Find a new group of people who are like-minded and open minded.