That’s because abusers control their victims by manipulating them them via gaslighting, guilt-tripping, love bombing, ect, which distorts their perception of reality.
Sure, some scumbags—usually the more dim-witted ones—can be easier to spot to those on the outside (including women) because they don’t face a barrage of constant manipulation. But many are certainly not, and fool practically everyone around them.
I think the reason a lot of guys will say stuff like that is because to a lot of guys it’s obvious who the bad guys are.
I’ve tried to tell multiple women that the guy their fuckin with is bad news and always get met with “well he’s not like that with me”
It got to the point I quit because no one ever listened ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
That’s because abusers control their victims by manipulating them them via gaslighting, guilt-tripping, love bombing, ect, which distorts their perception of reality.
Sure, some scumbags—usually the more dim-witted ones—can be easier to spot to those on the outside (including women) because they don’t face a barrage of constant manipulation. But many are certainly not, and fool practically everyone around them.