Either through memes or comments I keep seeing this sentiment pop-up from time to time. And I’m wondering what your (yes, you) consensus is on it.
I for one am too pessimistic to do anything with potential hints. Like even if there is a good chance I still just don’t want to risk it.
In general that’s also where we got the stereotype, our bars and bathhouses. These were the more visible parts of our community for a very long time, and they’re places gay men went to meet each other and hook up before apps were a thing.
It would be like judging all men by the men who go to strip clubs.
It’s not that it’s necessary wrong, in that there are lots of gay men, myself included, who fit that stereotype. But it inherently excludes people who don’t fit from being considered.
I think that’s similar to the statement OP is asking about, but I am not sure where the “women give hints and men miss them” trope comes from.
Oh I’m not silly, I knew gay people outside of that context and worked straight clubs too, I just noticed the differences in that context were the same as in regular day to day life only amplified.