• @[email protected]
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    47 months ago

    if they don’t plan to or hadn’t even considered proposal, they can start thinking about that

    And if they were expecting to organically come to this conclusion through shared experience, that’s off the table.

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      67 months ago

      I wouldn’t say it’s lost. If the relationship has good communication, the poster can simply explain to their girlfriend what happened. Hopefully, this can then just be a funny story to tell, perhaps at their eventual potential wedding.

      The experience can be taken by those in the relationship to not mean anything other than that the girlfriend is not opposed to marriage. The poster can choose to not discuss their feelings on marriage, other than that this was unintentional and they’re not ready yet. Then the relationship can develop as it would normally.

      However, it’s true that a lot of what I’m suggesting depends on the details of OP’s relationship. Not knowing them, their situation, their relationship or their views on marriage, it is not impossible that this could cause problems.

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      67 months ago

      I’d say a fluke occurrence with a beverage cap is almost the definition of a shared, organic experience.

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      27 months ago

      It very much sounds like the girlfriend had arrived at that point organically before they did, though. If she was able to say yes to the bottlecap so easily, and they hadn’t even put thought into it yet. So it sounds like coming to that point through shared experience was already off the table.