Well that’s really cool. As I said I tend to be a bit more selfish myself but, I can also see that I can’t and wouldn’t try to fulfill all of any potential partner’s needs, though I would think that they could find other ways of fulfilling them outside of another romantic/sexual partner. Again, I guess I’m just more reserved in my own (potential) relationships. However, as I said, I think it’s really cool that you and your partner(s) are able to be more open in that regard and do that in a way that’s fulfilling for all parties.

I find your description of your own attractions interesting. I personally a, exclusively romantically attracted to women. I’m (helpfully) also primarily aesthetically attracted to women. However, before figuring out that I was a woman myself, I thought I might be some other flavor of gay/queer and experimented a bit sexually with men. That was fairly hit and miss, mostly miss. Though I think I can say emphatically that I enjoy penis, I very rarely feel the same about the fellow attached to it. (I was never involved with other women like myself so I can’t say how much I’d enjoy that, though I tend to think a lot.) Jokingly, I’ve sometimes said to myself that “I don’t have a problem with dick, I have a problem with dudes.” But, I’ve found that’s not universally true. There have been a few men (read less than 5) who I’ve found both physically attractive and with whom I could imagine a pleasurable sexual relationship. Though all those men were (to my knowledge) heterosexual and most were involved with women so it was exclusively fantasy on my part and I still had no interest in a romantic relationship with any. I also haven’t ever been involved with anyone on the wider gender spectrum and don’t want to rule out any nonbinary, genderqueer, etc. folks simply for lack of experience. Even so, for simplicity sake I’ve sometimes labeled myself as a lesbian given my strong preference for other women in most arenas but, homoromantic bisexual is, while a bit more complex, much more accurate. Thank you for sharing your own experiences! I really enjoy learning about other people’s journeys and sharing mine.