I love all the ritualized behaviour, secret meanings and unexpected taboos - standing up when someone of higher status stands, elaborate rules for serving and eating, tapping the table to thank the server, never refuse a toast from a superior, stuff like that.
Whether it’s about meals or anything else, I’d love to hear about any uncommon politeness standard or similar social behaviour that goes on in your location, culture or restaurant!
A wave of the hand is absolutely not rude or an indictment, especially these days when nearly every restaurant is understaffed. It’s the polite way to get the server’s attention.
Depends on the restaurant. While not rude, a wave is often unnecessary in finer dining. Busy sports bar, sure. But most good servers will be scanning fairly constantly. Simple eye-contact is usually enough.
I would consider it an indictment in a fine dining establishment, yes. Anywhere else, no. Of course, you shouldn’t literally be waving your arms around. Just a slight lift of the hand while looking at them.
Spot on. I used to work in a fancy spot. People waving their arms around would sometimes just get a super friendly wave back from me.
Nicely handled!