I’d argue it’s not comparison at all, but envy. Comparison is a simple act and can be done between two things no one gives a damn about. It’s the envy that you generate yourself that ruins joy.
It is anecdotal, but I used to live in an area where there I was surrounded by people who were richer and more affluent than I was. I didn’t envy their stupid luxury SUVs or their unnecessarily huge houses. But it constantly gave me a feeling that I wasn’t as well as I could for myself and that I should seek more. Especially when I realized how dumb some of those people who make so much more money than I do are. This ceased the moment I moved to somewhere else where people around me were at my level.
I think ultimately you want to be at the level that you perceive as “normal”. But if you constantly look at people who make more than you, and there always will be, it will be much more difficult to be happy with your situation.
Nothing against this or other stoic ideas, but if you’re the only “enlightened” one while everyone around you is a reptile who is out for themselves, then you just end up a chewed up loser.
People like the Dalai Lama are losers in the conventional sense. How much of international policy (of any country) is determined from the teachings of Dalai Lama? Or at a smaller scale, how much of your immediate environment is determined from such principles? Every place is different, but the defining characteristics of any dominating force in history has been injustice, unfairness, and violence (on some level). It’s sad but true, doesn’t mean it can’t be different tho
I’d argue it’s not comparison at all, but envy. Comparison is a simple act and can be done between two things no one gives a damn about. It’s the envy that you generate yourself that ruins joy.
I’d argue that pedantry on the internet is the REAL thief, here.
Certainly stole my will to live
Pedantry is the main tool in my life-force theft kit
I think we can all agree that pooberbee is the REALLY real thief of joy.
I think this is actually important to point out. Not pedantry at all. You can compare things without becoming envious.
It is anecdotal, but I used to live in an area where there I was surrounded by people who were richer and more affluent than I was. I didn’t envy their stupid luxury SUVs or their unnecessarily huge houses. But it constantly gave me a feeling that I wasn’t as well as I could for myself and that I should seek more. Especially when I realized how dumb some of those people who make so much more money than I do are. This ceased the moment I moved to somewhere else where people around me were at my level.
I think ultimately you want to be at the level that you perceive as “normal”. But if you constantly look at people who make more than you, and there always will be, it will be much more difficult to be happy with your situation.
I don’t think dealing with the unjust nature of reality is the same as envy. That’s … a whole other situation far more than some tattoos.
Very zen, and true…
Nothing against this or other stoic ideas, but if you’re the only “enlightened” one while everyone around you is a reptile who is out for themselves, then you just end up a chewed up loser.
So you are saying people like the dalai lama are chewed up losers?
I always find it interesting to which length people go to not accept simple logic if it would hurt their feelings.
People like the Dalai Lama are losers in the conventional sense. How much of international policy (of any country) is determined from the teachings of Dalai Lama? Or at a smaller scale, how much of your immediate environment is determined from such principles? Every place is different, but the defining characteristics of any dominating force in history has been injustice, unfairness, and violence (on some level). It’s sad but true, doesn’t mean it can’t be different tho