Couple furious strict abortion laws meant they couldn’t hold baby to say goodbye
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A Kentucky couple was forced to travel out of state for an abortion due to a strict ban on the procedures. Then, they were unable to hold their dead baby daughter to say goodbye to her
  • Nepenthe
    6•1 year ago

    The couple was “furious” that their state’s laws were making it so difficult to get the help they felt both Heather and Willow needed.

    The Family Planning Associates Medical Group of Chicago offered to perform a dilation and evacuation for free - a procedure that doesn’t leave the foetus intact.

    I mean, I get it. I do. But there…is no other option with that. That is how an abortion works. If it isn’t the size of your thumbnail, it’s most likely going to be a D&C and at that trimester it’s coming out in pieces. It’s not exactly a c-section. They can do those instead, but they’re very rare with a high complication rate, and she’d likely be sterilizing herself.

    They’re right to be distressed, and thank fuck they were able to obtain care at all. But I don’t know what she expected to have, and that’s…that’s what’s done. Nor does it really have anything to do with the law itself…?

  • jjnjjlr
    2•1 year ago

    So I’m going to weigh in with my experience with a still birth and maybe what they were ultimately hoping for. At 26 weeks my wife had a still birth. It was our second child. We don’t know what caused it but his heart stopped beating. My wife noticed after a few hours of no movement and trying everything thing she could to stir the baby. (eating ice, cold drinks, pushing on her belly to try and rouse movement, etc.) She finally went to the hospital and they confirmed no heart beat. So she was induced and gave birth to our dead child. Honestly the saddest moment of my life by a fucking huge margin and seeing the emotional pain my wife was feeling. However we were asked if we would like to hold him. We said yes. At 26 weeks they are very much fully developed in the terms of physical appearance and can survive if born premature. I have a friend who was born at 26 weeks and his sister at 24. Anyway it did provide some closure and I’m thinking this would have been they’re goal if abortion would have been legal in their state and insurance covering even just some of it. But they were forced to go out of state which requires them to bare all the financial burden. Which they obviously couldn’t and had to go a cheaper and more “destructive” route. The headline is very sensational and they do a horrible job portraying the actual wished for out come because they did only mention induction and did not do much more than that.