• @[email protected]
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    194 months ago

    Havingconnections is probably best/safest way. Otherwise maybe ask in subreddit of your country

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      Yes, local know-how from someone else on an English-language website might be the safest entry point. It’s still not foolproof, though.

  • @Tangent5280
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    Honestly, you don’t. You do whatever it takes to get out of there in the long term, and start looking for partners once you’re out.

  • @[email protected]
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    134 months ago

    Carefully, but I probably don’t have to tell you that.

    I hear people just go ahead and use Grindr, but there’s been some stings on it in places like Saudi.

        • Lucy (she/them)OP
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          84 months ago

          Yeah… I also read their wikipedia pages and they seem to sell a lot of sensitive info of their users. Not very trustworthy unfortunately.

  • @[email protected]
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    Move to the capital city or the largest city. Find a few people online and meet more through them. Try to find social spaces where queer people gather. Doesn’t have to be queer-specific, leftist spaces are usually also safe.

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    44 months ago

    knowing a queer kuwaiti, russian, chinese and mexican plus my own experience in the united states have taught me that there’s atleast a bi-model reality for queers everywhere.

    anecdotally: the well connected; rich; and/or attractive queers usually don’t see much of a problem with living a queer-phobic country, citing that they can usually find a queer friendly community in their home country without much trouble.

    also anecdotally: the other queers that don’t fit into the shapes i mentioned have a bad time in their home country and their existence in the western world isn’t much different than anyone else there.