Below is some technical definition, but with sexual positivity means to me in regards to means, is there a gangbang everybody walks away with a smile on my face.
When somebody is bathed in cum it is because they like that and they think it makes their skin better.
In short, I like my sex memes to be heavy on the consent, and heavy on the mutual pleasure.
Like I like my coffee.
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More than just that, though, says Texas-based sex educator Goody Howard (https://www.instagram.com/askgoody/), sex positivity is the idea that people should have space to embody, explore, and learn about their sexuality (https://www.healthline.com/health/different-types-of-sexuality) and gender (https://www.healthline.com/health/different-genders) without judgment or shame. “It involves being nonjudgmental and respectful regarding the diversity of sexuality and gender expressions, as long a s there is consent,” says trauma-focused therapist and sexuality educator Aida Manduley (http://aidamanduley.com/) , LCSW, adding that sex positivity promotes a specific set of actions.
Above all else, sex positivity values consent (https://www.healthline.com/health/guide-to-consent), communication, education that allows people to m ake informed choices about their bodies, and pleasure.
Never had any sex in my ttrpgs. Is there a system you use or is it all rp based?
D&D 3e had a third party supplement called “The Book of Erotic Fantasy” which was simultaneously progressive and regressive at the time. YMMV, but you can probably find the PDF online easily enough.
Hello! Thanks for mentioning that. I also want to say that there is an excellent fifth edition wall product called rolling for seduction that full disclosure. I was given a free copy for review purposes. But it is really good in my opinion, and not just for the mechanics of what it does happen for excellent advice.
Not the op but I felt like sharing.
I think monster hearts made some splashes because it has rules about sex. Never played it but it was one of the bigger pbta games.
My pandemic DND game had several rom com subplots, but everything was PG rated. The players got the tavern keeper shy man to finally ask out the Scary Strong blacksmith lady. Later, the self described “gay gay homosexual gay” player character had a whole Thing with a NB arcanist they met at a party. Lots of awkward uncertainty and innuendo. Very good time. Another player declined to pursue a romance subplot with an interested npc. All of that was fine. We didn’t use much systems for it because DND is very bad at that.
A game of vampire I ran pre pandemic had a PC exploring their relationship with a mortal woman. Their actions got the woman shot by their enemies , which caused the woman to Awaken as a mage. That story had legs. Minimal mechanics for it, but there weren’t a lot of conflicts to roll for with the relationships anyway. Sexual content was mostly off screen.
Hi! This is a really awesome question.
Giant wall of text incoming, but I am a Librarian and I have been trying to completely answer your question
So one of the reasons why I need this meme is because I wanna explore how we can be cool about things that we’re not expert that or do it all.
I have never role-played sex, or even romance very heavily. The most that ever happened was five minutes saying I made out with somebody and then fade to Black.
However, there was a whole range and continuum of erotic role-play from people who do it just to be titillating and hav like playing a sexually explicit game of cards against humanity. Two people who use it as foreplay who actually have sex at the table.
( that’s a really wide continuum)
There are several systems for erotic, role-playing, including rules for fifth edition.
Full disclosure, I received a copy of this from the publisher to review, but I genuinely enjoyed it.
Rolling for seduction.
https://www.drivethrurpg.com/m/product/340447
So it adds three sexual skills to the game. Dominate submit, and generic sensuality.
There are sexual status effects, like desperate, and satisfied.
But what I really want to applaud, in highlight is the excellent game master advice.
Including safety tools, but also things that I wouldn’t expect like setting ground rules about thirsty textS.
Cool for people to like be trying to have sex with each other a hook up in real life?
Exactly house expose people want to be, would it be OK with masturbation at the table? For instance?
The only thing that makes that OK or not OK is a mutual agreement if everybody at the table.
And the thing is if you like the book publisher has several adventures and a erotic location guide.
For instance, there’s a Funhouse Dungeon and that is basically sex toy themed instead of traps, and the gladiatorial bring where they practice erotic combat.
Please let me know if I can help with anything else!
I have nothing to add. I just wanted to say thanks for being a cool librarian :)
That really touched me so much. Thank you very much for that comment.
I’m not cool, I’m just trying to do my best in this crazy old world.
Happy Tuesday gamer!
We survived Monday. I knew we would.
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I want to add that all sexual content needs consent. Throwing sex into a game I’m running or playing in includes me in your sexual exploration, and if I’m not comfortable with that (and I’m not) then that’s not okay. And it’s also okay to not be okay with it.
100 percent! Consent, first , last and always.
That’s actually part of the definition of being sex positive which I listed!
( one of the reasons why I love Heartstopper both the web comic in the Netflix series . They put an enNormas emphasis on consent)
And I’d like to add that everybody forgets that the game master is the player too. Safety tools are for game masters as well.
So, if a player does something that is upsetting or triggering to you, you could use the x card.
I’m gonna bring up a non-sexual example. About 19 years ago I was game mastering an Eberron campaign.
I was actually adapting Monty cook the banewarrens.
Everything was going great. The players we’re having fun. I was having fun. And then the players captured in NPC and tortured her for information.
You see one of my players I just bought the real world book of vile darkness which had player facing torture information, including the exact dc of checks when you do things like cut off the victims finger, or use the pear of lamentations.
I was deeply upset with this, but because I was immature and didn’t really know how to communicate my feelings I just went along.
It’s not just sex that needs consent. Anything upset anybody at the table? People should talk about it.
Thank you so much for making this point! It’s a game we’re here to have fun. Not make people uncomfortable.
