Criteria: I’m looking for instances that are defed’ with the Big 3 tankies (lemmygrad, lemmy.ml, and hexbear). I have no interest in trying to persuade my friends to create an acc and set up instance blocks before diving in, or dealing with the feedback when they run into the tankie brigade.

Edit: lemmy.cafe and infosec.pub seem to fit. I also find it really interesting just how many of the replies totally ignored my stated criteria.

    • @[email protected]
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      1210 hours ago

      I have noticed a lot of accounts from that instance being quickly created and banned. I don’t know if they’re trolls or spambots, but it seems like they don’t have very good control over who creates an account there.

    • @[email protected]
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      It doesn’t block porn instances though. I’d argue that because of this sopuli.xyz might be better choice even if it doesn’t block lemmy.ml.

        • @[email protected]
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          Title: „Which reasonably sized instance to recommend newcomers?”

          Criteria: „I have no interest in trying to persuade my friends to create an acc and set up instance blocks before diving in”

          OP: „but what about me”

          • AwesomeLowlanderOP
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            Yes, let’s just ignore the entire text body? I know there’s a joke about never reading the article, but this is a level above that.

            • @[email protected]
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              -98 hours ago

              I won’t argue that I know what was your intention when asking the question but you definitely didn’t phrase it as criteria for you specifically but rather newcomers in general.

              • AwesomeLowlanderOP
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                78 hours ago

                My post started with ‘Criteria: I’m looking for instances that are defed’ with the Big 3 tankies’, which you conveniently left out of your quote. That direct statement was not clearly phrased enough?

                • @[email protected]
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                  It’s very clearly phrased. I’m saying that if you want a newcomer instance then defederating porn instances is more important than instance that doesn’t really go out of its way to interfere with other communities. Sopuli is actually one of the first instances to block Hexbear outright when other big instance admins hesitated to.

      • ERROR: Earth.exe has crashed
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        109 hours ago

        I think I found the best one:

        infosec.pub

        has 4186 total users and 335 active users

        seems more active than the .cafe that the other user suggested

        Good luck with converting more people to join Lemmy!

  • @saltesc
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    Should be the default setting.

  • Pasta Dental
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    -410 hours ago

    Lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works are both really good. IIRC .world is hosted in Germany and sh.ithust.works in Canada east coast

    • AwesomeLowlanderOP
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      710 hours ago

      You do realise I’m on SJW? And neither of your recs is relevant to the criteria I stated.

      • @saltesc
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        Oooh. You’d fit right in at .ml