I’ll give the author this, it’s definitely a thoughtful and lengthy piece. However, it does veer towards some unpleasant philosophies towards the end imo with a weird appeal to nature and introduction of pickup artist shit like sexual market value aka ranking attractiveness. Citing Aella as a source of information also put me off, she is definitely not a reliable resource. I think this one would’ve been better as an essay about lived experience and opinions rather than trying to tie it together into a neat bow with a half baked biological theory. People are messy and they’re allowed to live messy lives, be it monogamous or polyamorus.

Wow, that’s a long essay. And they even asked people with experience… Often times it’s people who don’t really know what they’re talking about, having strong opinions on other people’s lives…