• @Fluffy_Ruffs
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    191 month ago

    Oh shit is that what’s happened to me?

    How can I undo it?

    • @otacon239
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      131 month ago

      Hobbies and community.

      Find something that you want to get better at and do it. A lot. Seeing yourself progress is insurmountable when it comes to getting out of the rut.

      As far as community, find a local group or meet up that does something you’re into and join it. Just by interacting with others, it can get you out of your own head.

        • @Gradually_Adjusting
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          41 month ago

          The budget option is to just find something to care about way too much (caveat: IRL) and make it an all consuming raison d’être. Something real though, like keeping an area clean or helping bees or something.

          • @[email protected]
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            31 month ago

            I like bees, my garden is one of the few on my street that isn’t concrete paved anymore. I spent my first summer living here smashing up the vast majority of it. Now its all green, hopefully the shrubs will continue to grow and looking at planting some opium poppies soon, march-may sowing time for them.

            • @Gradually_Adjusting
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              31 month ago

              That’s badass, you’re the hero of the hive and a subversive gardener to boot. I would unironically high-five you.

        • sunzu2
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          01 month ago

          If you got social skills, friends work better anyway.

          Just can’t be a leech about it and got to help them too.

  • @[email protected]
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    181 month ago

    I worked a job where I had to tell people they’d lost all their data on a near-daily basis. I gradually became very clinical about it, completely without empathy. Not rude, just: “this is what happened and here’s what we can do to fix it.”

    It took witnessing a surprising act of genuine compassion from a coworker to spark it in me again. I later thanked him and told me he’d saved me; I don’t think he fully understood the magnitude of the change he inspired.

  • slazer2au
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    101 month ago

    Jesus mate, don’t hit so close to home.