It’s fucking wild being the only queer in the friend group who can make phone calls without issue. It’s the lamest superpower.
where is the problem with calling?.. just uncomf?
Can’t speak for everyone, but for me it’s a clusterfuck of abstract conditions. I overthink the conversation to hell and back - maybe I’m misunderstanding what they say, maybe it cuts off repeatedly then I have to awkwardly ask my interlocutor to repeat themselves over and over again, the absence of non-verbal cues blows my interpretation gates wide open, I worry that I’ll come off wrong, etc., etc. And the anticipation’s just as bad, to be honest. It’s, overall, very uncomfortable.
I much prefer in-person, or text. In person, I can “feel the vibe” without issues, and text allows me to think, rethink and polish my message, and I don’t worry about having to clarify, because I just go back to “think, rethink and polish” with even more specifics at hand.
Phone convos (without video) are like the reverse Daywalker to me - the weaknesses of both text and in-person, with none of their strengths.
Edit: as a half-funny and half-frustrating example, about 90% of the times in which I provided my full name via phone, it ended up being butchered, a few times even in official documents (almost got stuck at Customs first time I went abroad with mum, because my actual name was nowhere to be found on the passenger manifest). This happened even when I spelt the name letter by letter.
i mean - yea, that’s phone calls - but i feel that people know that calls are kinda shid, besides when ur talking to a close and reasonable person.
i hav kinda grown on it ever since i started calling a fren during work for multiple hours. it was fun and not problematic at all…
but yes, calling other peeps is very uncomf.
Oh, agreed, it very much depends on the interlocutor. I was mainly thinking of an average phone call, but I’ve had people with whom I used to spend hours upon hours just chatting over the phone or, as you’ve said, voice chatting during work.
But that, to me, requires a high degree of familiarity, to the point where I don’t need to think about what they meant when they said that in that particular way, because I already know their “tropes,” so to speak.
u didn’t upvote ur own comment… why? ;(
It all started with my grade school Civics teacher… :)) Partly kidding, long story short, it’s a combination of not caring about updoots and not liking to vote for myself:))
I will say or agree to a bunch of shit rapidly to end a call as soon as possible.
