Wild how accurate this is. My five-year-old is tough as nails because we’ve never once overreacted to her having a spill. Always, always play it cool like nothing even happened. Smile and make light of it. “Holy smokes, kid! You’re like a tumbling monkey!” They’ll usually realize it was kind of funny.
Unless they get up and start bawling frantically, they’re neither hurt nor afraid.
Exactly this. I think it’s important to make a point out of checking that they’re not injured, but without exaggerating the situation. If we adults get stressed out, they’re more likely to get stressed/scared as well, even though they’re not injured and not even really in pain.
Yeah the accuracy is amazing. My four-year-old got hit by a meteor, and even though earth veered off course and billions died, I never acknowledged it and they’re A-OK.
Such was the life of little Clark
This is how people end up in therapy thirty years later asking “why has a lifetime of ignoring how I feel Led me into such difficult places in my life?”
But the kid is feeling fine. Ignoring how they feel would, in this case, be acting overly worried.
If the kid is feeling fine, yeah.
Its the conditions of worth that get created around it, like rules for life.
You should totally acknowledge the actual feelings of the kid and give it the sentiment of being taken serious. I think this here is about a phenomenon you might see sometimes, when adults are acting extremely worried as soon as a kid has a little accident and the child starts crying just because of the alarming behavior of the adults.
