• @TotM
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    910 hours ago

    I like to tell my husband about various things our daughter does when I know she’s probably listening. “She helped me with dishes, I didn’t even ask. She just came over and said she wanted to help, so when I asked her to dry a pile of bowls, she didn’t even hesitate. She was so careful and gentle and so thorough.”

    • @[email protected]
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      210 hours ago

      Not parent, just dysfunctional child of parent.

      This would wreck my brain a bit trying to play a role that’s seemingly immensely important to my parents.

  • THCDenton
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    49 hours ago

    You know, i cant recall my parents ever talkin shit. Maybe its just because im oblivious most of the time. My peers on the other hand…

  • @Kayday
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    28 hours ago

    I didn’t have that problem; my parents just did it to my face.

  • @[email protected]
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    181 day ago

    I read once that kids believe things they overhear more than the things that they are directly told and have been trying to do this ever since.

    • @Snowclone
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      91 day ago

      Yeah. Also if you phrase things poorly they take the bad meaning all the time never say ‘‘you’re no dummy’’ you need to be more like ‘‘you can do this, your very smart’’

  • @Jhex
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    132 days ago

    This happened to me… nothing destroys self esteem like parents bad mouthing you for stuff you thought was cool