Since I stopped drinking 3 years ago I have found that some people who drink seem uncomfortable when I decline their offers for a drink. They will repeatedly offer me drinks even after I explain that I consciously quit due to substance abuse. Some of these individuals are in-laws who should have more concern for my personal well-being but continue to regularly offer me drinks which I continue to politely decline.
I have a theory that subconsciously these individuals know they have an alcohol problem and find it confronting or somehow judgmental when they meet someone who has taken steps to address their problem. I suppose it’s easier to try and convince someone else to drink than it is to quit themselves.
It’s important to be aware that you may encounter this type of scenario on your journey to stop drinking.
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In society alcohol is viewed as ‘cozy’. Something you do with other people that makes being together more fun, that brings connection. When you say no it does make people afraid they are being judged, which sucks all the fun out of it for them, so they can often judge you and try to convince you otherwise.
I think that’s a good insight, and probably applies to other things too.
When I was reading this I was like “yup they have a problem” and then you said that halfway through. I really do believe that’s what it is
Yep, you are raising the standard and some people feel offended as they know deep down that they have a problem.
Just ignore it.
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So far all of my friends and family have been so supportive. I’m older though. I think maturity may be part of this as well.
