Let it all out. Be a storm
I FUCKING HATE CAPITALISM THE WORLD IS FUCKING BURNING AND NOBODY GIVES A SHIT
That’s not true. I care!
I do too. It just feels like that a bunch psychopaths hold a lot of power that is keeping us from progressing.
All that money, hoarded like dragons, seen as a high score to beat …
Should be lined up. Might be more environmental care if the heads of giant corps were made to clean up their company pollution with their own money.
I feel this deep in my bones. Lately I’m watching conditions deteriorate all around me and wondering what rock bottom is going to look like. We’re heading there fast and no one with any power to slow the descent gives a single fuck. It’s depressing as hell.
Yeah, fuck this stupid ass system. I gotta waste 40+ hours a week every week doing stupid shit in a dumb office
oh I give a shit but it does give me a feeling of helplessness.
It was great for a while, lifted billions out of poverty, gave us cures to diseases, air conditioning, internet, etc. But I definitely feel like we need to rethink it now. We need to protect the institutions that allow for innovation, entrepreneurialism, and capitalism, yes, because innovation is essential. But we also need to figure out how to help the tens of millions of people capitalism is leaving in the dust. Idk how to do that though.
Socialism
I hear what you’re trying to say but capitalism isn’t what lifted people out of poverty, it was a strengthened central government willing to tax corporations and the rich to spread the wealth being generated by labor to create a middle class. Stronger regulations and higher taxes bred an amazing increase in quality of life for the Boomer generation.
The super rich and their willing accomplices on the Right have waged a war on government protections for the middle class because it fetters capitalism and the consolidation of wealth and power. Without a government that is willing to work for the good of the people or unions that actually protect the labor class it’s clear that capitalism alone has not been a force for good for the common individual.
By the way, don’t ignore that a lot of the conveniences and leaps in innovation that we take for granted as corporate innovations came from government agencies (e.g. NASA) or government research/funding (e.g. vaccines). Corporations just take what we already paid for through taxes and sell it back to us again at a mark up. Yay capitalism…?
I do give a shit at least, loads do. Capitalism is cancer, people who support it works for them because they’ve never suffered or cared for anyone but themselves.
I’m a skilled fuckin mason. But I’ve put my notice in so I’m being given all the shit jobs on my last week. The past three days I’ve been descaling parts of the wall. What’s descaling you ask? Going over the entire wall with a hand brush and a wire brush, knocking off all the loose bits. Meanwhile their star mason is installing stones with ledges so big you could hang a fuckin coffee cup off em, and totally missing mortar on entire stones. Literally just plop em on the wall and keep going. Fuck this place, and fuck Bob specifically.
Yeah, fuck Bob. What a jackass.
Man Bob sounds like a real piece of work. Good for you, I hope you find a place that can utilize and appreciate (in the form of payment) your talents and commitment to quality of work. Best of luck internet stranger!!
Got high hopes for the next place. It’s technically a government job, and while I hear it’s really dull, I also hear they do exceptional work.
Shitty for them to do that to you. Would it impact your next job or your wallet so much that you can’t just tell them to fuck off and just walk away?
Next job no, wallet yes. And it’s just to the end of the week and I can tell me to shove their heads up each others asses
Dude, fuck Bob. Fuck you, Bob. You fucking tool.
I’m at a crossroads in life where I need to start making large and impactful decisions about my future. It’s a very lonely place to be.
Will my long term relationship last? Do I want it to? Will I try to stay in this (IRL) community? Do I want to? Will I stay in this career path? Can I afford not to?
Etc.
Usually I’d talk to my partner about all this, but because our relationship is also part of my issues, I feel like I can’t. So as a result… I’m feeling lonely and overwhelmed.
That’s really tough. I’m sorry you feel like you have no one to talk to, especially when you’re considering such tough decisions. If it’s worth anything: it is my opinion that at some point it’s ok to be “selfish” and consider the things that will make you a happier, healthier person in the long run so that you can then share this “better person” with someone who deserves it. Take a break, assess, regroup and start over. You got this!!
Thank you, kind stranger! I appreciate it. :)
I was there 5 years ago. We mutually decided to break up and it was really rough at first. When I met my current partner last year, I started to realize just how toxic that last relationship was. I found myself realizing that I didn’t have to walk on eggshells anymore. When you meet the right person, you’ll know because you won’t have as many of those kinds of doubts.
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Are you me?
Seriously, I feel you. I recently had a big life change to something that I thought I wanted to do. Turns out, it isn’t even close to what I expected. Not that it’s bad. Most people would consider it their dream. But is it what I want to do? I dunno.
It feels like I’ve just been following everyone elses dream. I wish I could just do a long walk about. Like hike the apalations and really consider what I want for me. Unfortunately, I have people that depend on me, so I can’t.
I did start therapy recently and it’s been a huge help.
I’m lonely. I broke up with my partner Valentine’s Day before last (found out she was cheating on me!). Turned 30 late last year, I work from home, and I’m not super outgoing y’know? I haven’t tried online dating since 2017 prior to this and it just sucks. It’s awful. It’s so hard to get a sense of a person on there so it ends up not being very successful. I’m sick of being in my apartment like fucking Rapunzel in the tower.
Do you feel like going back into the dating pool now?
I say this because I broke up with my partner one month ago, dating since 2018, and I feel that after 4 months my healing process will still not be finished. Do you have any friends around, maybe old acquaintances you can have a drink with? I don’t work from home, so my coworkers (who I surprisingly adore) have been instrumental in getting me back to life. Not dating yet, but at least being social. They’ve been planning events, activities and such, which isn’t uncommon for them, but when I was with my partner we would never go to these things.
Don’t take this as advice as I’m 100% not suitable to give it, take it more as support. I’ve also been seeing a therapist (I had a lot of issues that led to the downfall of the relationship), if that’s an option for you I would recommend it.
I’m the same age as you, I’m also not super outgoing, so I say: give it time. I was in a bad place after every break up I had and when I rushed things, after a breakup in 2017, it only made it worse. I went out, got drunk and eventually fucking cried. How ridiculous is that?
Until I noticed it was doing me no good, so I decided I would chill at home and that it would eventually pass, because everything fucking passes. Well, it did, and life continued, as opposed to think it was gonna end after the breakup.
Time does wonders. Therapy and getting to know yourself are also great.
I am so angry. I am so sick and tired of just stating my experiences as a woman and having people who are not women straight up tell me that I’m wrong. About my own life experiences. It’s fucking exhausting to be surrounded on all sides by bad faith actors, knowing full well that you won’t get through to them, and feeling defeated, like the world is going backwards and you can feel your rights being torn away from you bit by bit, trying desperately to stand up for yourself and having any words you say fall on deaf ears. I’m so sick of not being listened to. I’m so sick of not being believed. I am so fucking sick of not being respected. I just want to be treated like a human and not be criticised for literally just fucking existing.
I’m so done.
I’m sorry you have to deal with that. I hate dealing with people enough as a man. I can’t imagine how frustrating it must be to deal with all the bullshit you are stuck with, having your opinions and experiences dismissed, etc. I hope things improve for you (and all women), but it looks like it’ll get worse before it (hopefully) gets better.
I really appreciate your comment more than you know. Just having a guy read what I wrote there and not only recognize it, but believe it and validate it means so, so much.
I’m lucky in that I have some close male friends probably a lot like you who are willing to listen and are actively improving themselves and I am so very thankful for that.
I’m not a woman, but I am a minority living in a racist part of the USA, and I kinda know what you’re talking about. It’s really hard. I sometimes feel crazy because people don’t believe me.
I constantly have to play this game of, “are they being rude, do they not like me, or are they being racist?” I feel gaslighted all the time. I feel lesser and it’s tiring having to be who I am. Even people who think they are being kind are assholes. Telling me that I’m “not like the others” is such an insult to my people. “The others” are my friends and family. They are not “others” they are people to me.
I am sorry you are going through this. Your voice matters and is valid
Edit: Sorry for attaching my venting to yours. Pretty selfish of me now looking back
Oh gosh I cant even imagine dealing with all the racist little micro aggressions you have to deal with every day. Also don’t feel bad for venting, you were just trying to relate, and I’m autistic so I relate in a very similar way. I feel for you too and I’m glad someone understands. ❤
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Chicken wings are just too expensive these days. I love em but can’t really justify eating them with any regularity anymore
I’ve completely given up on finding someone to spend my life with. I’m 27m and I have nothing to offer outside of love. Every girl I’m even slightly attracted to already has a boyfriend. I’m not unattractive but I have resting bitch face and I’m intimidating. I’ve lived my whole life with people being afraid of me which fuels my need for companionship. I know I’m not owed anything from anyone but that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t still hurt.
Anymore I’ve just accepted that I’m going to die alone because I’m only going to be wanted for what I can provide when I just want to be fucking loved. My own family doesn’t even love me. All they can talk about is how I’m not good enough or I’m not applying myself correctly.
I hate being a man…
I was like you at that age, it stinks to feel unlovable, it’s the loneliest feeling ever.
That said I quit my job, went back to uni and finished something i should have long time ago. In that process I met my current wife, at 37.
So never give up hope. Instead of investing time in others, try learning to love yourself a bit more. If you don’t approach every woman as a potential mate but just as a person it gets better, too.
I know it’s easy to say from where I am right now, but best of luck and much strenght, bro!
I feel you, man.
I’m 29 and in your same exact situation. I’m constantly reminded that I’m alone and the world isn’t made for single men. The harder I try the stronger the depression hits back since all my efforts are meaningless. And each time I talk to someone about it I just get the most cliche responses.
I’ve just completely given up on love and accepted that I’ll be alone the rest of my life. Since it looks like it won’t be better, at least I don’t want it to be worse…
I understand the feeling. I’m sure you have lots to offer even if you don’t know about it yet ;)
I agree with Akasazh. I met my first partner at 24 and it lasted 7 years before we realized it would be better to split. It took me a long time (4 years) to find someone else, at age 36. Age doesn’t matter: people find love even past 70! (my grandma!)
This channel offered me good advices and helped me a lot. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClHVl2N3jPEbkNJVx-ItQIQ It’s much smarter than the usual youtube dating advices.
Yeah man wtf why is it that it feels like EVERY SINGLE GIRL not only already has a boyfriend but there’s like twenty other guys in line ahead of you? How does that math work out when the population is roughly 50/50?
Nope, I’m good. But thanks for asking.
I am absolutely exhausted with me and my kid’s ADHD. My wife is always upset at us because we can’t remember shit and I’ve spent my life feeling guilty because nobody will ever just give me a break.
I’m expected to be “on” at all times and I just can’t do it forever. Sometimes I just need to do things my own, likely inefficient way, but at least at home it usually ends in being berated because I didn’t do it “the right way”.
It’s so insanely demoralizing. I don’t even want to bother trying at anything because it will only be met with derision. What’s even the point. Fuck it all.
Shit like that is why I still dream of disappearing forever to be alone and just left to my own devices.
Thanks for letting me vent. Just so tired.
The entirety of the first few pages of my subscription feed are all posts about Sync for Reddit and about the Logitech controller used in the submersible.
The threadiverse has gaping fundamental flaws in its implementation. It will of course get better over time. But damn. This isn’t great.
I’ve had it with these motherfucking snakes on this motherfucking plane!
I have no energy to do the things I want to do and my parents would pull the “I worked full time and got a masters”. Like yeah, of course I appreciate their sacrifice but damn.
Every weekend I stay up trying to recoup some time to do the things I want but I end up just feeling more tired.
Mostly unrelated but also I feel like I’m living half a step detached from society. I am grateful for my SO who mostly get me at least.
Sounds like burnout.
Don’t have any advice cause Im not doing so great myself, but maybe set some small goals for yourself that look more achieaveable and enjoyable. Set a few hours to rest and do whatever without needing to feel productive, set some days to go out and do something different, some museum you never visited, or if there is some kind of event in your city like live music or whatever. Some times it will not be your thing, other times you may discover something new you like, at any case it gives you things to talk about and discuss with your SO and peers.I always thought it’s run of the mill depression and never considered burn out. Maybe there’s something more specific I can do about it.
Hope things work out with you as well.
Fuck society, and your parents gotta chill. Props to your SO. You deserve some you time. All the other shit can wait a day now and then
Depression. I am very lonely. I have no plans for the future. Everything feels meaningless, most of all my existence.
Life is a struggle to make something from nothing. You may not feel you have direction, but you are on a path to becoming a more fulfilled being with each day and experience.
Your assertion that life is only emptiness is largely true. The only meaning is what we create.
Try to love yourself, feel every feeling you can, and appreciate you get to be anything at all.
Happiness and purpose is just a perspective, one that I have chosen. It comes and goes, it’s always a battle.
But i used to be empty. I used to be nothing. I wanted to stop existing.
Nothing has changed as far as my outlook on the world, but I have found meaning in the meaningless. I have filled my emptiness with worth.
I think it comes down to appreciation. I’m alive, and that’s pretty crazy. Might as well enjoy myself, fuck the rest. Don’t do shit you don’t wanna do. What’s the point?
Appreciated words. I feel like the difficulty level of life is too high for me, I’m not skilled enough at living in this world.
I hear you there buddy trust me. I was not long for this world either. I quit. I shot drugs for over a decade and just sank to the bottom, uncaring.
No one is skilled enough. Look at the world for evidence. We are vompletely unequipped for the task at hand, but I think that’s what makes life interesting and worth living.
Make the best of your pain. Feel it. Accept it. Maybe you will find something in plain sight you missed before. Always keep looking. It’s a battle.
“Some quote about a journey”
I’ve been trying to get assessed for ADHD for almost a month now, and the therapist i’ve been trying to schedule with has been dragging their feet for WEEKS.
Both my brother and father have ADHD, my brother was diagnosed when he was a teenager but my dad was diagnosed in his 50s (I am 30). I work from home, which works great and I have no regrets, but when I get distracted, i get distracted HARD. I am constantly getting up, I have about 60 tabs open on multiple monitors, about every 30 seconds I think “I should look at xy or z” and open a new tab. When i’m not working, I have to have 2 or 3 things on at a time (read social media app redacted, have a tv show on, play with my dog, ect), and I have constant decision block in choosing how to spend my free time. It’s getting to the point where I’m up until 2am or worse towards the end of every deadline. I have a bunch of side projects I really want to dig into, but I can’t seem to maintain focus on any of them.
My insurance covers the costs of therapy but only within network, so I feel a little hamstrung to use this therapist because they’re the closest to me and have great reviews and seem to have an approach I would appreciate, but JESUS CHRIST just respond to my fucking emails! To add to the stress, I feel very self conscious of the perception I might be fishing for drugs, and ever time I send a follow up email i feel like i’m making it look like I don’t really need help.
I feel like i’m failing my wife, and my employer, and my friends, and I just want some help so I can get my life a little more in control. It’s exhausting.
