• foxglove (she/her)@lazysoci.alM
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        1 year ago

        hi KairuByte! This community is women-only and has a rule that only women are permitted to comment or post, so please don’t comment further - thanks!

        • KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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          Firstly, children aren’t considered property. You can legally take an axe to your house, because you own it. Last I checked, it’s still illegal to take an axe to your kid.

          Secondly, religious freedoms extend to where other peoples freedoms start. For instance, if I claim I have the religious right to take an axe to my child, am I allowed to? No.

          • outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.comBanned from community
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            Not transferrable. Absolutely property.

            You seem to be living in a fantasy world. If you know where i can find a portal to there, im very very ready ro ditch this apocalyptic shit hole; we kinda fucked the climate here anyway.

            Should i grab like a couple tb of movies or scientific papers or whatever, or just come as i am?

  • Omega@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    I didn’t have the language for it, but I knew something was wrong with me and the way I felt in my body and in society as soon as I was six or seven years old. Had I been given the right language to express it back then, I would have known right away, but I guess it wouldn’t have been better because, well, there’s nothing I would have been able to do about it. I didn’t know I was a girl. I just knew I desperately wanted to be one. But I could never say that to anyone.

    Still, though, I consider myself a trans kid nonetheless, just because I came out later, in my adult life, doesn’t mean that I wasn’t. I pretty much knew what I was, there was just no tolerance nor space for me to be it. And, uh, honestly? I deserved better. Much better. Instead, I’ll be spending the rest of my life dealing with the consequences of all of this…

    • LadyButterfly she/her@piefed.blahaj.zoneOPM
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      You really did. Your entire childhood you were dressed, expected to behave and treated as someone you weren’t. That’s really destructive, and you did great accepting your true self despite all the programming. You are who you are and who you are is great

    • TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works
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      I came up with the opposite of a tomboy, and told my parents “I’m a tomgirl 😃” in 3rd grade. From that point on my homophobic mom hid anything queer related at all times.

      jokes on her I got tits now

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    Thank you so much for posting this. I wish that families were better and didn’t force gender norms. But I’ve found comfort in chosen family that helped me while I came out and they still help me.

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    I was a trans kid who didn’t have much of a concept of gender identity until society smacked me in the face with it and essentially made everything revolve around it. I came out as an established adult with a family and career and still lost half my biological family to bigotry, while they cursed me with one hand and blamed me for tearing the family apart.

    My heart goes out to the kids who know, feel it in their bones, and have no choice but to watch as their body becomes less comfortable.

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    I wish when I was in grade school or middle school we could have had some kind of “learn to socialize” class that taught kids to actually interact in positive ways, in that class they could easily cover gender identities and teach kids it’s ok to be who you want.

    After realizing I was trans i realized my entire childhood sucked and felt uncomfortable partially because I was forced to go through boy puberty and became increasingly more uncomfortable as the changes started happening.

    Nobody told me what was going to happen to me, and nobody told me things could be different. And that really hurt to figure out as an adult.

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      Fuck. I just wish human growth and development class had some basic education on trans people. I don’t expect them to spend an entire day on it. But how about 10 minutes in the middle of a class? Just something like, “there are some people who don’t identify…” and then some discussion about how the T or E hormonal paths can be altered. How it is possible to basically choose which puberty you have. They taught me that testosterone would change my body. They didn’t teach me that the testosterone process could be interrupted, and I could choose to go down the estrogen path instead.

  • sir_pronounBannedBanned from community
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    Removed by mod