Condoms are designed to adapt to the vast majority of penis sizes, and there are specific sizes that are meant to fit the bigger ones. If you don’t fit into those, you will likely have a lot of trouble fitting into a vagina in the first place. Condoms might feel tighter on you if you’re bigger, but the vast majority of the time they should work as intended. Don’t use your size as an excuse to not use protection. There are condoms made for you that you can get if you put the effort in.
Edit: In terms of anal sex, it goes without saying that the bigger you are, the more preparation you’ll need to accommodate the size, assuming the individual anus has the eventual capacity for it in the first place.
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I mean they come in different sizes and manufacturers know all the sizes humans come in, so if you feel you cannot fit into a condom, go to the store and buy a bigger one. If that doesn’t work, great news - you can get a 10000 dollar reward (I can’t remember how much exactly) for sending proof of your abnormally large penis to scientists
On the flip side, there are some guys who are like my current partner, who are wearing condoms smaller than ideal because he didn’t think of himself as being larger than average. Standard size condoms mostly worked fine, albeit with a slightly greater rate of mishaps than I’m used to. However, the way the condom kept trying to roll itself back up reminded me of what happens to the waistband of a too-small pair of tights.
This is somewhat tangential to OP’s point, which seems to be aimed more at guys who are just reaching for an excuse to not have to wear a condom. If you’re a reasonable partner who cares about both your partner’s and your own health and thus accepts the necessary inconvenience of using condoms without making excuses to try to avoid it, then OP’s post is not aimed at you. My comment might be though.
Specifically, I want to suggest that anyone who has only ever worn standard size condoms should try buying condoms in the size above and below the standard size. Before you try a new size condom with a partner, make sure to see how the condom fits in a solo session first, and check that it passes a basic check of how it fits and that it doesn’t come loose.
I suggest this because my guy relayed that he reckoned that he didn’t realise he’d not been wearing the optimal size condom because he had internalised the fact that condoms were just expected to be mildly uncomfortable and inconvenient, and he didn’t have any more calibration data beyond his own experience with standard fit condoms. Just try a few different sizes so you can get a sense of what it’s meant to feel like.
(a friend of mine only realised he’d been wearing the wrong size when he slept with a man for the first time after coming out as bi. Apparently he was mildly indignant at being told by his hookup that he was wearing the wrong size (not because of feeling insulted at any size implications, more just like “you think you know my own dick better than I do?”. Apparently the guy replied something quippy along the lines of “I haven’t yet had nearly enough time to get acquainted with your dick. However, I’ve seen enough dick in my life that my arsehole might as well be a set of vernier calipers, and I’m telling you, you’re wearing the wrong size condom”. Sure enough, “the Vernier calipers of Camden cocks” wasn’t wrong. I may have learned more about my friends dick than I ever expected to, but it’s a funny story")
Lol what is this advice? There are different sized condoms and vaginas and penises across the globe.
This is nonsensical.
Exactly. There are all sorts of condom sizes that can fit all sizes of penises, so saying that you’re “too big for condoms” like a lot of people say when they don’t want to wear them makes no sense. If you’re too big for all the condom choices you have, you’ll likely have trouble fitting into most vaginas anyway, and anuses will need the same amount of preparation as for the biggest Bad Dragons you can find.
Its not ultra uncommon to not be able to find proper condom sizes for one’s self. I’ve had it happen to me before, and I’m not giant by any means. It all depends on where you are and what’s available. Being too big for a hole doesn’t enter into the equation.
OP is targeting the excuse of not fitting condoms as a reason to have unprotected sex.
Well there is a problem I have never had.
Same. I’m a poker, not a stretcher.
Lube, lube, lube, lube! If you have a penis with some girth to it, learn to use lube. A high quality lube is your friend.
Also, penis length is not the question here. You might think you are average sized or might even think you are on the small side because you judged yourself with a ruler. That’s incorrect. If your dick has the dimensions of a can of soda, you are going to tear some shit up without lube.
The ladies call me “Tuna Can” Pete, terror of the sheets 😎
Just to add on to this: lube and foreplay!!
Even if your penis is small to average, you can still hurt your partner if they aren’t warmed up enough or there’s not enough lube.
And to add onto this further — some people just produce less natural lubricant, even when adequately aroused. In matters of sex, variation is the norm, and so it’s always wise to be prepared and have lube to hand if needed. Even if lube isn’t strictly necessary (i.e. if there’s enough natural lubrication and general warming up through foreplay), having it to hand can be helpful for longer or repeated sex sessions.
And to add onto my own point, the variation I mentioned above means that you can’t rely on wetness as a measure of your partner’s arousal. Active communication about this stuff is important, especially with newer partners whose preferences you don’t know yet. (I once hooked up with a dude who put the lube within reach of me and told me that it was there if I needed it, and to let him know if I needed him to pause in order to apply it at any point. This kind of chill and proactive consideration of my comfort would’ve been an effective route into my panties (had they not already been discarded in the other room). Seriously though, communication like this is not mutually exclusive with sexiness, but often facilitates it)
Don’t I know it…
Oh ouch!
One more note - as women start perimenopause and menopause, the vaginal skin can more easily tear.
That does make a lot of sense.
For those who can’t comfortably fit in Durex XXL / Magnum XXL, the Condomerie has bigger (64, 67 and even more IIRC) and they ship worldwide.
I think that OP means that unprotected penises should not be in vaginas (which is sex-ed 101), but now you have no excuses!
What a frustrating website. They make a whole deal about ideal size, and then you can’t actually filter on the exact size.
Search for the “numbers” ones, 64/67/72(?), that could help I hope.
Haven’t been on the site for a while, good luck!
Pro-Tip:
Guys buy “slim” condoms thinking the wall of the condom is thinner and therefore more comfortable.
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They are smaller condoms for skinny dicks. If your slim condom pinches, buy bigger condoms.
Interesting. I haven’t heard of “slim” condoms specifically but I’ve seen and used the Trojan Bareskins. I think those are supposed to have thinner walls if I’m not mistaken.
They have condoms in all sizes, thicknesses and shapes. Not finding any that fit is a terrible excuse.
Not fitting into the ones that are available is, though. Slept with a girl once, who only had some „longer loving“ condoms with extra thick walls at home that just wouldn’t fit.
But then we just didn’t do it that way. Safety first. You can still have some fun together.
