Automod bugged out and banned me forever from reddit, i want to explore more Lemmy now but am not sure if Im missing anything good im not directly looking for–i am also kinda autistic and oblivious so if there are instances with a bad history or full of chuds or something a heads up would be swell
It sounds like you might be asking for communities rather than instances.
These are some nice ones. Not all are always super active all the time but there’s usually some activity. I’ll update my list if I can think of more
Oops, I definitely am and did not realize I was using the wrong word :')
My old ass is over here with the anarchists and pirates at lemmy.dbzer0 and we’re just a jolly bunch of assholes.
The entire vibe of lemmy seems to be way jollier from my experience but Im wondering if it just is because I havent come across some kinda dark underbelly yet or if it really is just way more chill here
There always seems to be drama between instances.
There absolutely is a darker side to Lemmy, but for the most part, many of those “legacy” instances have already been pruned from the federation that we are in now. (I suspect there are smaller, highly niche, “Lemmy” bubbles that even I wouldn’t want to go looking for that have never federated with the larger group. There are also various branches you can explore via instances that keep their doors mostly open.)
On the surface, and depending on what you consider toxic, the misinformation campaigns that are run on Lemmy seem fairly normal, but can get fairly dark if you understand the sources and start to do broader geolocation estimation of some of the participants.
There are still the occasional DDoS’s and the occasional CSAM posters, both of those are only a degree or two away from the really nasty shit.
The biggest issue now, and probably will always be, is how easy it is to avoid bans. Some seriously troubled users have generated hundreds of accounts across multiple instances just to troll and appear to generate traffic to specific communities. (“you_emm” being one of the worst, but its posts are fairly easy to sniff out still. It will actively search for untagged mentions as well, hence, my obfuscation.)
But for the most part, the bullshit is easy to filter out. When you stumble across a specific niche, they tend to niche themselves super hard, so beware. All-in-all, Lemmy is chill and fairly quiet which is why I still use it.
It is way more chill. Feels like 2014 Reddit.
Most of the hobby instances I like are mastodon instances. I particularly like dice.camp, the ttrpg instance.
I can’t remember which instances but there are a few “tankies” that are defederated by a lot of instances.
Yup, the tankie triad: Lemmy.ml, hexbear, and lemmygrad.ml
The three are pretty widely defederated. As a new user, they actually appear extremely calm and accepting. But it’s because all three are very heavily moderated, so anything outside of their extremely narrow overton window gets quashed very quickly.
Lemmy.ml is still federated by a lot of instances simply because the lead dev for Lemmy exclusively posts on .ml. So if an instance admin wants to stay on top of Lemmy development, they’re required to federate with .ml. But it’s also worth noting that any donations for lemmy’s development also go towards keeping .ml’s lights on. The dev has openly stated that he doesn’t do any kind of accounting to keep the two funding pools separated. So any donations that go towards lemmy’s development will also go towards one of the tankie instances.
What theee
Never knew something was wrong about lemmy.ml, it’s not moderated here on my server. But it often has duplicate communities with .world and they are of comparable sizes
A lot of the moderation that causes users public grief are usually just timeouts. Arguments over politics and ideology, etc quite often catch folks a timeout. Folks will debate a two day ban for a week.
And with the Fediverse: many community moderators are also admins of instances.
So with that in mind: moderation policies quickly convert drama between users to drama between instances.
They also spend a lot of time moderating and keep asking for money to develop lemmy so they don’t have to work.
Between that and funding .ml is why I switched to piefed and donate to them.
Be careful not to use up your voting rations.
Piefed is problematic in its own ways, just FYI. I don’t know what it is about fediverse devs and trying to insert themselves as supermods, but the two seem to be strongly correlated.
How is Piefed problematic? Honestly asking - the only “controversy” I’ve witnessed was about the list of default instances.
I know Rimu has some really weird opinions about how a social media network should be designed, such as believing that the 90-9-1 rule should be prevented and being against memes, and tends to be overly pushy about implementing these “”“features”“”. That said, so far as I’m aware, its not so much problematic as just stupid design decisions.
Including OP’s too:-). Except lemmy.ml, obviously.
Tbh i made this account through the browsing app i use and am still pretty baby, im only kind of sure what defederated instance even means but I didnt wanna ask stupid questions :')
My understanding, using the federation-email analogy, defederation is like yahoo mail and gmail users not being able to send and receive emails from each other. In this case lemmy.world and lemmy.ml can’t see each others users/communities/posts/comments/votes (someone can correct me if I’m mistaken about any part).
[email protected] just made a post about instance defederations. TL:DR of the post is only 3 instances/servers have any significant defederation (>5%). 2 “tankie” instances (lemmygrad.ml [67%] and hexbear.net [64%]) and the porn instance (fedinsfw.app [13%]).
Just browse by /all…
When you see stuff you don’t like, block it.
When you see stuff you like, subscribe to it.
so if there are instances with a bad history or full of chuds or something a heads up would be swell
Honestly?
Just dive on in.
There’s a lot of places that are horrible, but don’t seem like it at first. But figuring it out for yourself is a learning experience, and isn’t just blindly trusting someone else who you don’t know.
Most instances have open modlogs, but there’s also accounts that weaponize that and ban people from communities they’ve never been in. What the modlog is very useful, is mod accountability. First time wandering into a new place, it doesn’t hurt to look at the log and see what type of vibe but has.
Most of the time the mods should be removing the “last straw” comment to preserve it in the log, then banning the account. However in practice most mods (even me, not throwing shade) will just click “perm ban” and “remove all content”.
Because none of this is actually that serious. If mods took it as serious as some users want, they burn out and crash out like that dude who built a hidden blocklist into his front end without telling anyone.
Can’t give too many fucks about this stuff.
My instance has a decent list is communities btw if you’d like to find some to subscribe to. A few others might have lists as well.
https://slrpnk.net/communities
There’s also [email protected]
And a shout out to my own community, [email protected] (yes I do run the Reddit one as well)
This is perfect thank you!!
pics, youcantparktheremate, historyphotos, cats, [email protected]
overall there’s not a lot here relative to reddit. as a warning, lemmy.ml is a community centered around pro-communist/anti-capitalist ideology, and some there can get hostile to people who don’t share their beliefs.
Im guessing pics here is probably a lot better with the big decrease in bot traffic, i was so used to automatically unsubbing from that one I forgot it was an option here :')
I’m a problem masturbator.
Try using both hands
Like you masturbating is the problem or you masturbate problems?
Correct.
If you provide some of your interests/hobbies, we can probably be more helpful.
That being said, I think these are a few active and interesting communities:
Regarding places to avoid, I don’t think anyplace needs to be avoided, per say. Politics can be problematic, if you go into those posts.
There’s no real algorithm, so you need to curate your own feed. In general, I’d suggest, if you see a community that could interest you, just subscribe. You can always unsubscribe later (if it turns out not to be what you want), but getting a denser “good stuff” home feed is beneficial.
By the same token, I’d suggest blocking communities you have zero interest in (helps filtering, so you come across more content you are interested in when browsing “All”). If you run into a problematic user, report (if they have done something reportable), block, and move on.
If 2 communities are posting the same content and you get tired of seeing double, I’d suggest removing the community from the bigger or flagship instance (ex. Lemmy.ml, Lemmy.world, Piefed.Social).
This would have the effect of distributing the communities across the threadiverse rather than having them bunch up on a few. A problem with bunching can be if an instance goes down, they take their users/communities with them. Most of the medium/large instances in the threadiverse are stable, but it has happened in the past (Lemm.ee).
My understanding is this should be much less of a problem in the future, they are working on making user profiles and communities transferable between instances/servers.
Note: there is an active autism community, if that’s of interest to you.
Yeah sorry I realized it might have been a bit vague, I dont mind lurking in areas where it isnt even my specific hobby or interest because it can be kinda neat to peek into what other people are interested in, I’ve been recommended some great gardening/science/climate ones but Im wondering if there’s going to be anything like hobbydrama or cursedcrochet or wunkus. Im gonna miss wunkus :(
Thank you!
No worries :)
- Not sure we have a Hobbydrama, but it’s also not my interest, so I could have blocked it.
- Cursedcrochet looks fun. We have an active knitting community, but probably not enough activity/users for a specific “cursedcrochet” community at this point. Also have a semi-active leatherwork community, if that’s of interest.
- Wunkus seems great. I think the closest match we may have would be Scrungy Cats, but there could be communities I don’t know about.
- Also, in a different comment someone mentioned the solarpunk communities (basically anything on the slrpnk.net instance), I’m a big fan of those, and think they’re worth checking out.
The threadiverse (roughly the reddit-like part of the fediverse) is pretty small (~43k MAU), so if something doesn’t exist and you want it to, your probably going to have to start and build it yourself.
I was kind of off-put by that initially, but I kind of like it now. It’s kind of like building your own little space and people can come check it out and see what you’ve been building and contribute if they feel like it. I created fedilytics (Fediverse-Analytics) a couple months ago because I was curious how the fediverse was doing. It’s not particularly active with other people (got first non-me post yesterday!), but I mostly built it for myself and enjoy anytime someone stops in to talk in the comments.
If you do decide to make a community in the future, I’d suggest making the post in the community and then cross-posting it, to a larger relevant community, to increase traffic to your post (as many people just stick to their subscribed feed).
It’s like a community of Hank Hills there and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
