• vzq@lemmy.blahaj.zonedeleted by creator
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    3 years ago

    I used to live by that rule, but it turns not everyone likes to be treated the way I like to be treated. So now I just ask how they want to be treated.

    Just a trick I picked up from the BDSM subs ;)

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      3 years ago

      Exactly. I had to learn this too. I am unusual in a number of ways. When I treat people how I want to be treated I am often mistreating them and damaging the relationship. People are different and need different things. You have to communicate rather than unilaterally apply your self-empathy.

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      3 years ago

      Yeah, there’s a lot of things IDGAF about myself (like my birthdays, etc.) that make it easy to forget that for other people it means a lot. So even if I’m a cool acquaintance I’ll be a shitty friend :(. I’m working on that

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      3 years ago

      the golden rule

      In case you didn’t grow up with it, the golden rule comes from Jesus’ saying that no matter what it is, there exists pornography of it on the internet.

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    3 years ago

    Nope, because what you want might differ from what they want. So the rule is: treat people how they want to be treated.

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    3 years ago

    This has been my number 1 rule since I learned I was being an arse.

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    3 years ago

    If I treated people how I want to be treated I would get arrested

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      3 years ago

      Ah sorry I’m late. Was too busy sharing with people how awesome this fight club concept is. What’s the first rule of fight club?

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        3 years ago

        The first rule is don’t talk about the first club. The second rule is DO NOT TALK ABOUT THE FIGHT CLUB!

        I always forget most others but the 8th (which is the last one) is if you’re new, you have to fight.

    • GBU_28@lemm.ee
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      3 years ago

      If you’re hearing Tyler durden describe the rules, in a basement, no, you are not.

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    3 years ago

    That rule sounds nice, but people can have very different expectations. This is a rule that shouldn’t be followed strictly.

  • FeathercrownBanned from community
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    3 years ago

    “What is the first rule of Hero’s Duty?”

    “Uhhh… no cuts, no buts, no coconuts?”

    bonk “NEVER mess with the first person shooter!”