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Cake day: June 24th, 2023

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  • ChexMaxtoAsk Lemmy*Permanently Deleted*
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    8 days ago

    My family is all on messenger, and so it’s either gotta be me or my husband using it or else we won’t know any of the family plans (or daily discussions which is my main source of socialization.) Same goes for my friend group. I’d be very lonely without it, so that ends up a lot more important than my moral objections to meta.




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    10 days ago

    No one in the comments seems to point out: all of your needs and wants are being met, but the fact that she sought an external relationship indicates that her needs and wants are not being met.

    If you’re ok with the cheating and want to keep her, you probably need to look into why she feels she isn’t getting what she needs at home (which as others have mentioned, is ok if you’re both open to an open marriage!)

    I’m sorry she wasn’t open with you about her needs being met, and I’m sorry she went behind your back to meet them. I hope you’ll both be ok, man.



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    14 days ago

    I mean that’s tough. Unless you have an unemployed family member who can take on the care, and even then it has to be a physically strong and frankly mentally strong person to do the kind of care elderly folks require. It’s just not feasible for most families.

    My grandmother is physically disabled and has dimentia. Some weeks are hell taking care of her, and she’s one of the gentlest people with dimentia I have ever met. ( I used to work in a memory care facility, which is a big reason she’s at home with us)


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    14 days ago

    They actually already have a thing that basically turns the people on camera to stick figures. You can turn it off if you need to, but a quick check can see that they’re up and moving around vs fallen down without invading their privacy too much at least



  • So much labor! The amount of work I have to do to make sure I don’t have to spend money when I’m out of the house. So much planning, not just in the packing up, but also in stocking my house so that I can pack up everything we’ll need for an outing because food from the grocery store and water from home is so much cheaper than buying anything on the fly. Packing for a trip is exhausting, but I’d sooner die than have to buy a cheese stick or a bandaid at the theme park price. My brother-in-law is so freaking chill because he uses money to solve all his problems. Cold on your trip? Buy a jacket! Spill in your car? Through a car wash! Headache? Buy the single packet of Tylenol! Hungry? Buy lunch wherever is closest! Don’t like the taste of the beer you ordered? No sweat! Buy a different one. I wish I could be non-chalant like him, but if I want to have half the experience he has, I have to put in so much work up front!



  • ChexMaxtoGreentext@sh.itjust.worksAnon is worried about men
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    25 days ago

    If you decide to date again, you should consider dating liberal women. The only women I have known who are like you describe are conservative(and I have met one or two who expect the princess treatment and then don’t deliver on the prince treatment!). I know conservative men who expect traditional roles, and I know conservative men who expect to split the bills and say they’ll split the housework but then the woman ends up doing all the housework anyway. The women in that situation end up feeling like you: if I’m doing the housework AND working, this is easier on my own!

    In my liberal circles things seem to be a bit more evenly split, and both partners are often more independent.

    It seems like you’re happy on your own though, so you’re doing the right thing by removing yourself from the dating pool! Maybe you’ll find someone independent who will be a good match naturally, but I can’t imagine a woman would want to work and split the housework with someone who has your attitude (“most women are bad and not worth having around”) so you might need to change that if you do decide to get back into dating. I can’t connect on what you mean on sex not being the best thing in the world and the literal purpose of life, but I do know my husband felt like you on that front before he met me. He thought people were just exaggerating on how good it is. Maybe, like him, you just haven’t met the right match there either? It’s not like I’m even that good in bed, if anything I’m a bit of a selfish lover. It’s just that we’re a good fit together. Good luck, man. I hope you find the right fit and realize men and women are equally selfish and equally selfless.



  • I was going to comment harvest moon after reading the title!

    A lot of the older games for me. They’re just a lot harder. Like maybe they expect you to be willing to replay an area or a level over and over, getting a little farther each time until you beat it and I just don’t have the stamina for that anymore, or the time.

    Newer games baby you, they increase the difficultly perfectly along side your ability growth. They might even make a level easier if you’ve failed twice. Older games don’t care if you’re having fun as much. There was less competition (fewer game choices) and more of a “gamers like this. If you don’t like it, you’re not a gamer” attitude, and now games want to attract everyone.

    I have become such a baby about games. I want to have fun the whole time! I can’t handle failing over and over. I’d rather just read a book.


  • ChexMaxtoMicroblog MemesDon't need therapy? Got money for sympathy?
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    I’m not positive you mean this, but you’re implying men shouldn’t pay for their intimacy? You think it should be free? Everyone pays, but in healthy relationship the “payment” is emotional intimacy, acts of service, words of affection etc. No one is walking up to a stranger and banging them without giving anything. Heck even in sex alone there’s “transactions.” During foreplay, I get you a little turned on, you get me a little turned on, I escalate, you escalate.


  • Because as a dink, other people’s children will serve as your lawyers, nurses, firemen, governor’s, mailmen, cable guy whatever for at least half of your life. You contribute nothing to the next gen except those taxes. Other people are providing the workers, while you benefit from their unpaid labor of raising children. Only dumb dumbs don’t see the value in contributing to education, especially since a lot of they themselves benefited from that exact education or free access to libraries and other social services