My family is all on messenger, and so it’s either gotta be me or my husband using it or else we won’t know any of the family plans (or daily discussions which is my main source of socialization.) Same goes for my friend group. I’d be very lonely without it, so that ends up a lot more important than my moral objections to meta.
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ChexMaxto Casual Conversation @lemm.ee•Have you ever won a giveaway? If yes, what did you win?English2·9 days agoI won a hundred and one dollars from a radio call in contest, but I did have to split it with my brother. I got all my siblings to call in with me, and if we won, we’d split it. When we went in, they had me sign a document that I couldn’t win anything else from them or their parent company for one year.
Is it comparable to today’s oatmeal? Is porridge a separate food from oatmeal?
No one in the comments seems to point out: all of your needs and wants are being met, but the fact that she sought an external relationship indicates that her needs and wants are not being met.
If you’re ok with the cheating and want to keep her, you probably need to look into why she feels she isn’t getting what she needs at home (which as others have mentioned, is ok if you’re both open to an open marriage!)
I’m sorry she wasn’t open with you about her needs being met, and I’m sorry she went behind your back to meet them. I hope you’ll both be ok, man.
For years it was 30 Rock. Them Bob’s Burgers (good, but the songs are always louder than the show) and now back to 30 Rock
I mean that’s tough. Unless you have an unemployed family member who can take on the care, and even then it has to be a physically strong and frankly mentally strong person to do the kind of care elderly folks require. It’s just not feasible for most families.
My grandmother is physically disabled and has dimentia. Some weeks are hell taking care of her, and she’s one of the gentlest people with dimentia I have ever met. ( I used to work in a memory care facility, which is a big reason she’s at home with us)
They actually already have a thing that basically turns the people on camera to stick figures. You can turn it off if you need to, but a quick check can see that they’re up and moving around vs fallen down without invading their privacy too much at least
I don’t take a bath to get clean, I take a bath to relax. Showering at the end would undo the relaxed state
ChexMaxto Ask@lemm.ee•What's something poor people do that rich people wouldn't understand?English4·19 days agoSo much labor! The amount of work I have to do to make sure I don’t have to spend money when I’m out of the house. So much planning, not just in the packing up, but also in stocking my house so that I can pack up everything we’ll need for an outing because food from the grocery store and water from home is so much cheaper than buying anything on the fly. Packing for a trip is exhausting, but I’d sooner die than have to buy a cheese stick or a bandaid at the theme park price. My brother-in-law is so freaking chill because he uses money to solve all his problems. Cold on your trip? Buy a jacket! Spill in your car? Through a car wash! Headache? Buy the single packet of Tylenol! Hungry? Buy lunch wherever is closest! Don’t like the taste of the beer you ordered? No sweat! Buy a different one. I wish I could be non-chalant like him, but if I want to have half the experience he has, I have to put in so much work up front!
ChexMaxto Casual Conversation @lemm.ee•What is the last piece of decoration you added to your home?English2·19 days agoI got a dresser for my daughter off a neighbor’s curb - it’s beautiful, I guess armoire would be a more accurate term. It needs some work, but it looks straight out of beauty and the beast or something. It’s real wood and so much filigree
If you decide to date again, you should consider dating liberal women. The only women I have known who are like you describe are conservative(and I have met one or two who expect the princess treatment and then don’t deliver on the prince treatment!). I know conservative men who expect traditional roles, and I know conservative men who expect to split the bills and say they’ll split the housework but then the woman ends up doing all the housework anyway. The women in that situation end up feeling like you: if I’m doing the housework AND working, this is easier on my own!
In my liberal circles things seem to be a bit more evenly split, and both partners are often more independent.
It seems like you’re happy on your own though, so you’re doing the right thing by removing yourself from the dating pool! Maybe you’ll find someone independent who will be a good match naturally, but I can’t imagine a woman would want to work and split the housework with someone who has your attitude (“most women are bad and not worth having around”) so you might need to change that if you do decide to get back into dating. I can’t connect on what you mean on sex not being the best thing in the world and the literal purpose of life, but I do know my husband felt like you on that front before he met me. He thought people were just exaggerating on how good it is. Maybe, like him, you just haven’t met the right match there either? It’s not like I’m even that good in bed, if anything I’m a bit of a selfish lover. It’s just that we’re a good fit together. Good luck, man. I hope you find the right fit and realize men and women are equally selfish and equally selfless.
ChexMaxto Showerthoughts•We joke a lot but what is happening in the US is really scary.51·1 month agoA little less than a third of people voted for it. A little less than a third against it. A little more than a third didn’t vote. There was no majority here. I don’t get this “you wanted this, so duck you, enjoy the consequences” response. A third of us fought against this. Our kids don’t deserve a hell scape because boomers are gullible.
ChexMaxto Games•What are some old games that are hard to revisit, because a more modern and superior version exists?English81·1 month agoI was going to comment harvest moon after reading the title!
A lot of the older games for me. They’re just a lot harder. Like maybe they expect you to be willing to replay an area or a level over and over, getting a little farther each time until you beat it and I just don’t have the stamina for that anymore, or the time.
Newer games baby you, they increase the difficultly perfectly along side your ability growth. They might even make a level easier if you’ve failed twice. Older games don’t care if you’re having fun as much. There was less competition (fewer game choices) and more of a “gamers like this. If you don’t like it, you’re not a gamer” attitude, and now games want to attract everyone.
I have become such a baby about games. I want to have fun the whole time! I can’t handle failing over and over. I’d rather just read a book.
I’m not positive you mean this, but you’re implying men shouldn’t pay for their intimacy? You think it should be free? Everyone pays, but in healthy relationship the “payment” is emotional intimacy, acts of service, words of affection etc. No one is walking up to a stranger and banging them without giving anything. Heck even in sex alone there’s “transactions.” During foreplay, I get you a little turned on, you get me a little turned on, I escalate, you escalate.
ChexMaxtoEconomics•IRS braces for $500bn drop in revenue as taxpayers skip filings in wake of DOGE cuts13·1 month agoBecause as a dink, other people’s children will serve as your lawyers, nurses, firemen, governor’s, mailmen, cable guy whatever for at least half of your life. You contribute nothing to the next gen except those taxes. Other people are providing the workers, while you benefit from their unpaid labor of raising children. Only dumb dumbs don’t see the value in contributing to education, especially since a lot of they themselves benefited from that exact education or free access to libraries and other social services
ChexMaxto News•Elon Musk’s daughter says father’s rally gesture was ‘definitely a Nazi salute’3·1 month agoYeah, she “begrudgingly” voted for Trump, just like the people you’re talking about. My parents on the other hand, lifelong Republicans, voted Harris. Sure “not all Republicans” but it is all the ones who voted for Trump. There’s no excuse for them to have voted for him the second time. I am sympathetic to Republicans who held their nose and voted red the first time, but it’s a different party now.
ChexMaxto News•Elon Musk’s daughter says father’s rally gesture was ‘definitely a Nazi salute’22·1 month agoAll Republicans. My idiot sister. She’s like “I watched it” as if that’s proof it wasn’t? If the white superiority groups are applauding your actions, you’re in the wrong. That quieted her down but it didn’t change her mind. She thinks we’re all over reacting.
ChexMaxto World News•Scientists issue dire warning: Microplastic accumulation in human brains escalatingEnglish2·2 months agoRegular boiling is pretty good! The micrplastics end up sticking to the calcium deposits left behind. Never been so happy for that stupid white buildup in my kettle!
“As reported in ACS’ Environmental Science & Technology Letters, boiling and filtering calcium-containing tap water could help remove nearly 90% of the nano- and microplastics present.”
https://www.acs.org/pressroom/presspacs/2024/february/want-fewer-microplastics-in-your-tap-water.html#:~:text=As reported in ACS’%20Environmental,the%20nano%2D%20and%20microplastics%20present.
ChexMaxto Not The Onion•Trump was reading from a sales pitch during the White House event with Elon MuskEnglish3·2 months agoI think that’s pretty standard for public speaking. I’ve been printing stuff that large since highschool with decent eyesight. You just print as large as you can while keeping it all on one sheet
My front tooth is chipped. It was already a crown, but my kid headbutted me in the face and it broke. I meant to Google a dentist the next day. It’s been a month and a half. I look like a much dumber version of myself