Basically what it says on the tin. Having read though some of the materials on the issue, I am baffled by how recklessly the word is used, given the consequences of such usage.

Pedophiles are the people with sexual attraction to prepubescent children. It doesn’t matter whether they do or don’t act on that attraction; in fact, many don’t. It is a sexual interest/mental condition that cannot be reliably changed.

Child molesters, on the other hand, are not necessarily pedophiles - in fact, 50 to 75% of child molesters do not have pedophilic interest.

Both facts can be sourced from the respective Wikipedia article and more info can be found in respective research.

Why does this matter?

Because the current use of the word reinforces stigma around pedophilia and makes it less likely for people with pedophilic disorder to reach out for help for the fear they would be outed and treated the same as actual child abusers.

This, in turn, makes those in a vulnerable position more likely to cross the line and get into the category of child abusers instead of coming for help. Also, it heavily affects people who did nothing to deserve such treatment.

What should we do?

We should leave the word “pedophile” to the context in which it belongs, which is the mental health and sexuality spheres, and avoid using the term to describe sexual offenders against minors. At the very least, one would most likely be wrong. At most, one would participate in the cycle of child abuse.

  • @ABCDE
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    425 months ago

    Pedophilia is not a sexuality.

    It’s a sexual preference, which you don’t have much of a say over. However, the difference is that people don’t act on it, mostly, otherwise they’d then be an abuser/rapist.

    You have the same barn door attitude as my simpleton father.

    • @Lost_My_Mind
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      -325 months ago

      I’m confused by that last sentence. It took a WILD swing out of right field. Are you saying your dad is attracted to barn animals, and you’re accusing the other guy of that too?

      • @[email protected]
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        305 months ago

        He was using a saying. While I don’t know what exactly he wanted to express with “barn door attitude”, it is made clear through the context of its usage, that he disapproves of the over-simplistic and degrading “let’s gruesomely kill all who are attracted to children” argument the guy above him made.

        • Transporter Room 3
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          25 months ago

          The only time I’ve heard “barn door” used in an idiom is “close the barn door after the horses ran away”, to mean “it’s too late”

          so I guess OP means “you’re saying it’s too late for the ones who haven’t acted on it”?

          It might be a stretch, but it’s all I’ve got.

      • @Illuminostro
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        -235 months ago

        I’m confused that anyone, anyone, would defend wanting to fuck, or outright fucking CHILDREN. And puberty is still childhood.

        • @Lost_My_Mind
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          85 months ago

          I’m not defending that. I just don’t understand what he’s talking about barn doors for. It came out of nowhere.

          • @DillyDaily
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            75 months ago

            A “barn door attitude” is a idiom. I’ve only ever heard it to mean that you can’t keep your opinions together and they’re an open and paradoxical mess. Not sure what it means in other contexts.

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              25 months ago

              Maybe “close the barn door after the horses ran away”, to mean “it’s too late”? It’s the closest I’ve ever heard

              so I guess OP means “you’re saying it’s too late for the ones who haven’t acted on it”?

              It might be a stretch, but it’s all I’ve got.