. It’s the 23rd century, people should not be uncomfortable with their identities anymore

And people are totally comfortable. I am guessing that you’re referencing Adira and their reaction to announcing that they’re non-binary? That didn’t happen in the 23rd century. It happened in the 32nd in an area torn with strife and isolationist behavior that is also not a part of the Federation. Their reaction is appropriate for the setting. There’s a reason that Culber and Stamets are gay without addressing it. Because they are from the 23rd century where that isn’t an issue.

For fuck sakes, the ship itself starts having an identity crisis at one point.

… It’s a newly born AI that is being threatened with being severed from its physical housing. Yeah I feel like that’s kind of appropriate as well. I mean when they did that in TNG there was Measure of a Man… so…