The simple answer is you don’t. A person will act or think however they are going to, whether you like it or not. If its something that bothers you, spend less time around that person.
Yes but by that logic, all interaction and advice is basically attempting to control someone else’s actions. For example your comments literally tells the OP to do something different than their intention, defying your own prescription that autonomy is completely sacrosanct above even the attempt to influence someone in any form.
There’s a balance that’s struck and that’s how we are able to respect one another and live in a society. There are few if any circumstances where it’s permitted to force anyone to do something, but to affect one another’s actions through persuasion is simply an integral part of being human. If the only options available to us when the people around us do anything we don’t like is to either tolerate it, or cut ties, life would become impossible.
This question is basically asking:
“How do you control someone else’s actions?”
The simple answer is you don’t. A person will act or think however they are going to, whether you like it or not. If its something that bothers you, spend less time around that person.
No it’s not. It’s how to help someone recognize toxic traits and hope they want to stop.
If they were to see that behavior as toxic but wish to continue with it anyway, that’s fine. It just won’t be around me any more.
Yes but by that logic, all interaction and advice is basically attempting to control someone else’s actions. For example your comments literally tells the OP to do something different than their intention, defying your own prescription that autonomy is completely sacrosanct above even the attempt to influence someone in any form.
There’s a balance that’s struck and that’s how we are able to respect one another and live in a society. There are few if any circumstances where it’s permitted to force anyone to do something, but to affect one another’s actions through persuasion is simply an integral part of being human. If the only options available to us when the people around us do anything we don’t like is to either tolerate it, or cut ties, life would become impossible.
But the complicated answer is: everybody’s actions are being controlled by someone else all the time.