• Flying SquidOPM
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    52 days ago

    Having a kid really sped things up for me. It felt like just yesterday she was the little baby that I could hold in the crook of my arm and now she’s 14.

    • @Dasus
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      22 days ago

      Looking forward to that, unless I missed it already.

      Luckily we men have a tad larger window, but I always imagined being with someone pretty much exactly my age, but that’s not like a criteria or anything. Just aways had that thought.

      If I want that I should really hurry up some. My own father didn’t really the ability to play with us and I’d like to be able to physically play with my kids.

      Oh completely unrelated rant, sorry, I’m just jealous.

      The last decade feels like it has gone by faster for me than some years in school. And nothing much to show for it, except a decade of aging on my face.

      • Flying SquidOPM
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        32 days ago

        I had the rare good luck of finding someone early and being with her, but waiting until our 30s to have a kid.

        • @Dasus
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          32 days ago

          Yeah. I’m happy for you, friend.

          My luck is pretty much the same as Donald Duck’s.

          Eh, perhaps some day. Never say never and all that.

          • Flying SquidOPM
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            32 days ago

            Yeah, I would definitely never say never. I have a friend who is an awesome guy. Really likable and good looking. Not an enemy in the world. He could never stay in a relationship. He just got married last year at age 45.

            • @Dasus
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              32 days ago

              That does instill some hope in me. Thank you for the reassurance.

              • Flying SquidOPM
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                32 days ago

                You’re welcome and good luck! I don’t believe in soulmates or being made for each other or anything like that, but I do think that, unless you live out in the middle of nowhere, there’s probably someone not too far away that will think you’ll be compatible with them. No relationship has to be perfect. Ours has sure had its ups and downs over the years. It’s really hard to find that person, especially these days when there are so fewer social options (everyone in cafes is wearing earbuds now), but they’re still around.

                And even if you do live out in the sticks, people find love online all the time.

                I have faith in you finding love out there!

                • @Dasus
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                  22 days ago

                  Not to brag, but getting into a relationship was never a challenge for me. I’m not really looking right now, due to the situation I’m in. Let’s say the dating pool around my current living situation isn’t one I feels like investing in. (There’s a related saying, “never stick yo dick in crazy”)

                  And even if I decided not to have kids, I can still have meaningful relationships. It’s just… I’m around that baby fever age. I don’t have one or want a crying shitbucket, essentially, but there clearly is an evolutionary need to procreate. Perhaps I’ll grow out of it.

                  But like, just on a cognitive level, it seems so… weird, not to procreate, becsuse literally all my ancestors going back to their beginning of life have done that.

                  I’m sure you know what I mean.

                  I have faith in you finding love out there!

                  Me too man, but I’ll look for it… a bit later. Cheers for the sentiment tho!