• @[email protected]
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    6 hours ago

    “sounds of mom crying somewhere”

    Uuh…yeah that’s not part of growing up with ADHD, at least not universally in any way…and what’s with the bruised legs?

    • Miles O'Brien
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      317 hours ago

      and what’s with the bruised legs?

      Tldr: inattentiveness, bumping into tons of stuff, and only remembering it when you look at the bruise or someone reminds you.

      An explanation that’s meant to be humorous because it happens to me and my wife all the time:

      “Oh my god, where did THIS bruise come from?”

      earlier that day

      bump “ow, how did I hit the coffee table…”

      bump “fuck that hurt, I swear the counter was another 6 inches over”

      smash “FUCK the freezer door closes too quickly!”

      has to be reminded of these events to remember tham

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        5 hours ago

        High pain tolerance with this is borderline dangerous

        I once went on a tech support visit to someone’s bosses office, finished what I was doing, left, and the guy escorting me told me my hand was bleeding the entire time.

        I am absolutely that oblivious, i didn’t even know what I nicked myself on, didn’t even feel it

        • Miles O'Brien
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          45 hours ago

          I’ve had cuts I didn’t know about, but the worst was when I worked retail and managed to smash my upper arm on a shelf, and apparently I was bleeding bad enough to leave a broken trail from the front of the store to the break room.

          I couldn’t feel anything but the aching of the blunt force trauma, I didn’t feel the sharp cut or any stinging at all.

          I’ve also had plenty of small spots I have no idea how they happened, but usually I’M the one to figure it out…

      • @FireRetardant
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        66 hours ago

        This is where im blessed, my body very very rarely bruises so most people have no idea how clumsy I am on a daily basis.

    • @[email protected]
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      14 hours ago

      Yeah, some of this stuff is just garden variety ineptitude and/or teenage ungainliness. You can’t lump every inability or struggle into your diagnosis, or it weakens the core truths.

    • snooggums
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      97 hours ago

      what’s with the bruised legs?

      Impulsive adventurousness and bumping into thing.

      • @[email protected]
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        67 hours ago

        Aha, I thought it was a reference to getting beaten, partly because of the other comment part I mentioned.

    • The Snark Urge
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      57 hours ago

      Try having a kid with ADHD sometime. I love mine, but it is also genuinely traumatic sometimes

      • @[email protected]
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        27 hours ago

        I do have one, but I haven’t had any experiences that would make me sit down and cry or anything traumatic. He’s a handful (and then some) at times, but definitely more good times than bad ones.

        • @rtxn
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          35 hours ago

          As a former ADHD kid myself (as in, former kid, still ADHD), I would at least worry about how the condition might affect their academic, social, and emotional development. I was an unfortunate Gifted Kid and picked up a lot of knowledge from cartoons (back when cartoons had educational value), but that came with the cost that I never learned discipline, and never learned how to study. I know that my consistently falling test scores confused and devastated my parents.

          But all that was two decades ago. I hope that ADHD is more understood now and kids don’t have to remain undiagnosed and untreated.

        • The Snark Urge
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          16 hours ago

          Everyone’s experiences seem to differ, but I’m glad it’s not this rough for everyone.