• @HowManyNimons
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      322 hours ago

      I’m English and in England. I’m having a bit of trouble with “u get left on read…” Can someone help me out please?

      • @SwordInStone
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        1422 hours ago

        left on “read” (past participle) = the guy doesn’t reply.

        It relates to the messaging apps showing “read” when someone has read the message, but not yet replied.

      • @TheDoozer
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        322 hours ago

        I’m an American, and I had to ask my wife what that was the first time I saw it. And then I needed an explanation on why that was a problem, because I had thought the point of text messages was that you could read it and get back at your convenience, as opposed to a phone call you have to respond to in the moment.

        Apparently I’m old.

        • @johannesvanderwhales
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          621 hours ago

          One advantage of SMS over other messengers. As far as I’m concerned whether I’ve read a message or not is nobody’s fucking business but my own.

          • @[email protected]
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            320 hours ago

            Exactly, which is why I refuse to enable read receipts or use services where it can’t be disabled.

            I’ll get notifications and read them without actually opening them, and I’ll also open messages without actually reading them. I don’t want people to make assumptions based on the read status, so I refuse to engage with that feature.

        • @HowManyNimons
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          722 hours ago

          Are you OK? I like learning about ways people speak. If I wasn’t interested I wouldn’t have asked.

          • @[email protected]
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            120 hours ago

            Or more specifically, use of specific apps. I don’t use apps w/ read receipts on purpose (and I disable it in apps that have it), so the etiquette around that is entirely irrelevant to me, regardless of age.

      • @[email protected]
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        122 hours ago

        English is my third language and I had no problem understanding it (and neither did whoever or whatever is behind the account you replied to, and I’ve got them tagged as a russian — or chinese — troll bot account)…

        I do wish, however, that anyone who writes “U” instead of “you” would slowly die of exploding anal cists and haemorrhoids, though, I’ll give you that.

          • @[email protected]
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            21 hours ago

            When you send someone a message in some messaging system which has read confirmations (like whatsapp, for instance, or outlook), and the message is marked as read (or you receive a message read confirmation, or whatever equivalent your messaging system has), but they never actually reply, which often implies that they don’t want to (or can’t be bothered to, same difference). Whatever the case they probably don’t have as much respect for you as you have for them.

            As a metaphor I suppose it can also mean doing something for someone without getting anything in return, even though reciprocation would normally be expected.