• Pup Biru
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    3812 days ago

    i will never understand the inability for people not to have amazing sex with their friends

    • JackbyDev
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      2512 days ago

      Anon couldn’t have sex with a friend because anon wanted to have sex with a prostitute.

    • Echo Dot
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      712 days ago

      I don’t want to have sex with my friends. I know where they’ve been.

      Anyway people’s relationships are complicated, there’s plenty of people I like who I do not find attractive.

    • qyron
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      012 days ago

      Somewhere along the line, when you finally meet the person that truly meets all your expectations for a life together, your friend:

      • Have they told you we used to fuck?
      • @[email protected]
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        2212 days ago

        Oh no my current partner has had sex before with someone and they are grown up enough to still be able to talk with them. /s

        But for real though, it is more a green flag for me than a red flag.

        • qyron
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          212 days ago

          The above is oversimplified and written to elicite a chuckle but most people aren’t that comfortable with having another human being (I don’t discriminate; just aiming for the most probable scenario) their significant other used to pork on a more or less distant past staying around. Most will have doubts about their relationship and its heading. Or even worst.

          Monkey brain and pride computes around “If they porked in the past, did they stop completely or is it a come and go situation?” Humans are strange creatures.

          • @[email protected]
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            1012 days ago

            So you don’t trust your partner then? I’ve had ex’s that I remained friends with and they had ex’s that they remained friends with. As long as no one’s an asshole about it it’s fine. The fact that you used to sleep with someone doesn’t always mean you’re just waiting for an opportunity to jump on them again.

            • qyron
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              212 days ago

              I trust the person I’m with and I’ve met the person dating them before me. I didn’t felt threatened or insecure; I see myself as a passing shadow through other peoples lives, which is quite liberating. If I manage to gain a prolongued stay, as I have, good, if not, good as well.

                • qyron
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                  312 days ago

                  For me, personally, nothing. For most, apparently, a lot.

          • @[email protected]
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            Definitely agree with the humans are strange creatures. Wasn’t also specifically pointing at you and indeed more the general consensus.

            • qyron
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              211 days ago

              I just understood there was room and need for me to clarify my position and view, so I took the chance.

              But we are, indeed, a strange bunch.

          • @[email protected]
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            -512 days ago

            pork

            🤢🤮

            Why do some men think that is an acceptable term for sex? It’s so degrading. Or is that the point, to compare sex to fucking a piece of meat?

            • Echo Dot
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              512 days ago

              That was you’ll take away from that comment?

              They make a fairly good point that you seem to be ignoring

            • qyron
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              112 days ago

              Pick whatever synonym you prefer and read it in place of.

              I personally dislike “fuck”; sounds purely physical and unemotional, aggressive, quasi mechanical, like scratching an itch.

              While “porking” sounds silly, goofy, almost nonsensical. Something two people attracted and trusting of each other would blurt out as teasing.

              The first carries the same weight you vocalized on your reply for me, only that I don’t apply that disgust solely towards men. I can tolerate a “fuck” as an expletive towards anything in a figurative way (fuck the traffic, the car, the coffee being too hot, the iced tea too sweet, the dog peeing on the sofa, the cat throwing up on a shoe) but I sincerely dislike saying or hearing said “fuck” in the literal sense. It’s crude, rude, disrespectful towards the other.

                • qyron
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                  312 days ago

                  I only use euphemistics if there is an established relation and consent to it.

                  At some point in my life I was with someone that had a kink for being called by terms I consider demeaning towards any human being, so I openly refused to do so and explained why I did it. The relationship ended shortly after.

                  Because I see sex in a couple dynamic as a corner stone for a healthy relationship, I always strived to be open about talking regarding limits, dos and donts. I like enjoying myself before, while and after being with my partner and making sure my partner does as well and laughing and goofing around is an integral part of it.

                  So, if there is mutual trust to throw around some silly dirty talk, yes, to answer your question, I would.

                  • @[email protected]
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                    311 days ago

                    I just want you to know that your comment wasn’t blatantly disrespected at least by this internet stranger.

                    It’s a thoughtful reply to some asshat that was asking you questions in bad faith, he was not open to a different point of view from the outset.

                    And also that’s pretty awesome stance to take. I wish more folks were this mature about their relationships

                  • @[email protected]
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                    -812 days ago

                    How is ‘pork’ an acceptable term for sex though? The euphemism you are implying with it is literally to ‘fuck a piece of meat’. And pig meat at that.

                    This is not a cute or light hearted thing to imply when talking about sex. ‘Fuck’ is far less offensive a term for sex than ‘pork’.

                    But sure, whatever, if the women you fuck do want sex with them to be spoken about like you’re sticking your dick in pieces of pig meat, then by all means.

                    Just understand that it is disgusting and degrading to speak about sex this way publicly and you should really be more called out on it.

      • Pup Biru
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        110 days ago

        And any partner of mine in that situation would be like cool… 3some? And everyone has fun